Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt has discovered 3 keys that heal the fear of rejection…
I used to only work with women. Then out of blue David De Angelo interviewed me for Double Your Dating. During the interview I had one of those ‘hear-a-thousand-angels-sing’ sacred moments when you know you’ve hit your Life Calling. I saw the way I was perfectly designed to heal men’s hearts with my loving tenderness, awaken their confidence as their Muse, and guide them to succeed with women by championing their noble adventure of manhood.
I honor that there is an unspoken brotherhood between men, and I bow to the great men who lead men’s groups, retreats and initiations. I’ve experienced the point where my son is ready to leave ‘mom’ and embrace his rite of passage as a young man. Nonetheless, there is an invitation that only a conscious kind almost sacred-temptress of a woman can awaken in a man, because she truly loves him, believes in him and is deeply moved by his magnificence.
It’s humbling to learn that sometimes, I am the only woman in a client’s life who hasn’t judged, shamed or hurt him for being human. That honor is nothing short of a divine privilege to love these men home to fullness, freedom and power.
I adore working with single or divorced men who struggle trusting women after a breakup. I heal their hearts and ignite their badass nobility so they can have a fulfilling, long term, hot intimate relationship. Just the other day a new client expressed he was afraid to lose his relationship which was on the brink of destruction if he could find his confidence again. He told the story of how things were incredible for the honeymoon stage, yet after their first fight, he had lost all his courage to speak up, tell the truth or be certain in his actions. He’d tense up, get anxious and even freeze which made her hugely question if he loved her anymore, and was desperately needing him to be the confident lover she had met.
There were three areas that I helped him heal from the Fear of Rejection in our first call:
1. He was operating out of his head: When he engaged with her, he’d overthink, 2nd guess, double check, question and doubt which disconnected him from her, from the moment and from the location of his truth… his body. Fear of rejection lives in the mind, not the present moment.
2. He was disconnected from his true power: Often we think our power is outside of us. We we lean in to control the situation yet this pushes people away, or we pull back and hide from fear of rejection which often makes people think we don’t care.
3. He wasn’t speaking from his body: Have you ever heard someone who sounds somewhat nasal as compared to someone whose voice is velvety, resonant, seems to be sourced from deep within them? This stems from fear that not only physically constricts our vocal chords, then also energetically when our communication isn’t sourced in our hearts and deep in the creative depth of our pelvis.
Many people suffer from the fear of rejection. As a coach, I work with my own coach to dissolve limitations in my life personally and professionally. Bottom line LIFE can’t flow through you if you put the breaks on. GIFTS can’t be received by you if a wall is up. And LOVING RELATIONSHIPS can’t happen when you’re not intimately connected with you, with Source, with the Moment and with your Beloved.
If you’d like to change all that quickly, download my complementary report and video series for men at GetHerToSayYes.com. Unbridled love and delicious blessings, Allana
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