He looks at couples without kids and wonders “Why did you even bother to get married?” Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt senses something deeper’s going on…
Question: I look at couples without kids and wonder “Why did you even bother to get married?” This is kinda of your field of expertise, what is the point of getting married if you have no intention of starting a family? Is there even a point? (asides for a false sense of security and the promise of sheer boredom in the future).
Answer: Ouch. You sound bitter my love. Like you’ve been burned, yes? You seem to think marriage without kids is just to provide a false sense of security or the promise of sheer boredom. Is this what you’re experiencing yourself? Is this what you’ve noticed in others?
I’m sensing there’s a deeper question you really have… deeper than judging other’s decisions about marriage or kids, deeper than your analysis of why people makes decisions… I sense you’ve been disappointed or let down by love.. and instead of feeling and processing and working through those feelings, you’re staying on the edge judging others rather than creating what you truly desire in life. Yes? Am I onto something?
Look. You have every right to feel resigned about love. It’s tough out there. I have two divorces under my belt and I have every right to hate men. I mean it! I have endured a truly vile cruel custody battle seeing the very worst in a man. It’s as if he truly has fulfillment in seeing me hurt, probably because I divorced him, left him, in his eyes rejected him, in his eyes he’s lost face. So now I deserve to pay. Not fun.
Yet my friend, going through this horrific experience was the hugest gift. I’ve learned to define myself beyond anyone’s opinion of me. I’ve learned to keep my heart open in the face of anything. I’ve learned that I can be in allowance of even the most atrocious things… stay centered and connected to my truth, and make potent decision for the success of my life. And through it all, I have grown closer and closer to my son, to my own heart and to the Universe. Who would have though trauma could have evolved my soul?
Perhaps you’d be willing to see what’s happened in your past another way? Perhaps you’d be willing to let me help heal your heart? Perhaps you’d let me show you that your vulnerability is your greatest strength? Perhaps we could let go of our concern with other’s choices and instead dive into what you truly desire to create in your life? While I am a profound coach and healer, in the end it comes down to science… your vibration, resonance is literally what you create and receive in your life… another way of saying that is as you change, your world can’t not change right along with you. It’s just that it’s a lonely journey when your heart has been emasculated and it’s efficient to have a partner who sees you, believes in you, has your back and is there as you courageously let go of the past, and emerge as the noble badass you truly are inside.
That’s why I have a thriving coaching healing practice, walking through the fire with humble brave phenomenal souls as they surrender and show up for all that Life is ready to give them. And I don’t bite, at least not that hard 😉 I invite you to release your focus on other’s decisions and get clear on what YOU desire, and when you’re a 10 out of 10 ready to change this, apply for a complementary strategy session with me at www.AllanaPratt.com/connect. Only you have the power to change your life… and I am your privileged badass guide. xox
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Life is short. Let’s savor it to the core, yes? Huge love, Allana oxox
No point in getting married when couples can’t talk about their problems without yelling, screaming at each other, trying to win each and every argument at all costs and arguing over even minor, trivial things and/or accusing your spouse of imaginary things just to harass and torment him/her.
There is no point in either. Marriage is a losing proposition 50% the time ending in divorce….the other half you have to die to get out of it. Clearly a bad move. And really, the whole of society is not going to die off if you don’t breed mini-me minions. Again pointless. Get a dog and a Jeep and forget the whole thing.
What’s the point of getting married at all? Marriage is on a decline and countless men and women don’t even feel the need to get married WHEN they have kids. So what’s the point? A commitment is a commitment … ya really need a certificate/license to prove your love and commitment to another person? Isn’t that where we’re at/going?
The end of marriage is on the horizon. Can the end of relationships be far behind?
Or maybe the end of family?
Family as well is on the decline. Never in history have we had kids without dads and moms without husbands. The “intact” family is a thing of the past. Husband and wife has been replaced with “my babies mom” My babies dad”
Tom Marriage is not over! Not for heterosexuals,nor for others. Gay and lesbians have fought hard for the right to marry and in my country they can now get married in church. ( the church is divided on this issue). To promise to love and take care of another person for life is different from cohabitate. I have never asked couples that choose to just set up house and live together what kind of promises they have given each other. I have never asked them what kind of contract they have. That is private ,still I curious ! Is the… Read more »
Hi Iben … If you didn’t know, what I said was sarcasm but sadly a real view many people have. My wife and I have 41 years under our belts. My 5 married siblings and I, noting that 3 of them have passed away, equal over 170 years of marriage. Needless to say that I believe in marriage.
We have nothing in it’s place.