He looks at couples without kids and wonders “Why did you even bother to get married?” Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt senses something deeper’s going on…
Question: I look at couples without kids and wonder “Why did you even bother to get married?” This is kinda of your field of expertise, what is the point of getting married if you have no intention of starting a family? Is there even a point? (asides for a false sense of security and the promise of sheer boredom in the future).
Answer: Ouch. You sound bitter my love. Like you’ve been burned, yes? You seem to think marriage without kids is just to provide a false sense of security or the promise of sheer boredom. Is this what you’re experiencing yourself? Is this what you’ve noticed in others?
I’m sensing there’s a deeper question you really have… deeper than judging other’s decisions about marriage or kids, deeper than your analysis of why people makes decisions… I sense you’ve been disappointed or let down by love.. and instead of feeling and processing and working through those feelings, you’re staying on the edge judging others rather than creating what you truly desire in life. Yes? Am I onto something?
Look. You have every right to feel resigned about love. It’s tough out there. I have two divorces under my belt and I have every right to hate men. I mean it! I have endured a truly vile cruel custody battle seeing the very worst in a man. It’s as if he truly has fulfillment in seeing me hurt, probably because I divorced him, left him, in his eyes rejected him, in his eyes he’s lost face. So now I deserve to pay. Not fun.
Yet my friend, going through this horrific experience was the hugest gift. I’ve learned to define myself beyond anyone’s opinion of me. I’ve learned to keep my heart open in the face of anything. I’ve learned that I can be in allowance of even the most atrocious things… stay centered and connected to my truth, and make potent decision for the success of my life. And through it all, I have grown closer and closer to my son, to my own heart and to the Universe. Who would have though trauma could have evolved my soul?
Perhaps you’d be willing to see what’s happened in your past another way? Perhaps you’d be willing to let me help heal your heart? Perhaps you’d let me show you that your vulnerability is your greatest strength? Perhaps we could let go of our concern with other’s choices and instead dive into what you truly desire to create in your life? While I am a profound coach and healer, in the end it comes down to science… your vibration, resonance is literally what you create and receive in your life… another way of saying that is as you change, your world can’t not change right along with you. It’s just that it’s a lonely journey when your heart has been emasculated and it’s efficient to have a partner who sees you, believes in you, has your back and is there as you courageously let go of the past, and emerge as the noble badass you truly are inside.
That’s why I have a thriving coaching healing practice, walking through the fire with humble brave phenomenal souls as they surrender and show up for all that Life is ready to give them. And I don’t bite, at least not that hard 😉 I invite you to release your focus on other’s decisions and get clear on what YOU desire, and when you’re a 10 out of 10 ready to change this, apply for a complementary strategy session with me at www.AllanaPratt.com/connect. Only you have the power to change your life… and I am your privileged badass guide. xox
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Life is short. Let’s savor it to the core, yes? Huge love, Allana oxox