Question: When is it appropriate to start having sleepovers with someone you are dating? I don’t want to move too fast.
Answer: Thank you for your question. Forgive me, I don’t quite have enough information to go on to give you the depth of clarity I think you’re requesting.
Are you fairly young and new to sex and so sleeping over is a big deal because it may be your first time?
Or are you dating someone who is a single parent and concerned about the children? If so, this is such a noble question, thank you.
Or are you dealing with more internal uncertainty, doubt and hesitation? Are you thus far unable to have open honest communication with your partner about having sex and are afraid to ruin the relationship if you come from a place of fear?
My answer to each of these situations would be different so I’m going to assume it’s the parenting issue.
Please ask your question again if I my assumption was wrong! 😉
Generally single parents have at least one night off with either the other custodial parent, a grandparent or an aunt or uncle. As you’re getting to initially know them, I would definitely choose sleepovers on nights where the kids aren’t there.
There’s no perfect amount of time before you meet the kids, however if you’re successfully dating for six months exclusively and interested in what’s possible moving forward I think it’s time to begin meeting them for dinners or at the park etc… yet I’d still wait to have sleepovers or you see them in the morning like Daddy used to, until you’re ready to be a regular fixture that they can rely on, count on, be there for them as a family.
I consider sex to beautiful, natural and normal. It’s to be expected as a wonderful part of any healthy relationship so please enjoy honesty, open communication and freedom around connecting with your partner. Yet if you’re involving children, please take it slower so that they don’t get their hopes up and then potentially disappointed if it doesn’t work given they just went through one relationship dissolving, yes?
And lastly, if I completely misunderstood your question, forgive me! Please ask again with more specifics so I can be of greater service. Or consider simply booking a discounted strategy session now so we can have exclusive private one on one time together. It would be my honor to provide 10 times the value and rock your world giving you great clarity and direction and any healing required to move forward with successful sleepovers and more! Please go to www.allanapratt.com/connect and book yours now.
Humongous blessings, Allana
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