People face many different kinds of challenges in his life. Men are often taught they cannot share these problems with others, which can make it difficult to share every truth with his partner. Sometimes lies are to protect his idealized version in front of you. Or a man who is struggling to express his feelings may lie when the relationship is struggling and he wants to avoid your punishment. This does not mean the lying is right, but it makes it easier to understand and create a path towards more open, honest communication.
The following are some common reasons a man might lie in a relationship.
1. He wants to keep the strong emotional connection
If a man loves you, he will never hurt you. And sometimes this means that if there is bad news, he will not tell you because he cannot see you in pain. He will lie to you to preserve his emotional bond with you. He will build an intimate relationship with the power of his mendacious nature.
2. He is afraid of your weird reaction
Perhaps his partner is one who likes to be open and emotional about everything. Instead of seeing this as a positive quality, some men see this as “creating drama” and over-reaction. Therefore, man prefers to lie to escape from what he sees as a significant dramatic response. He does not share his truth with you due to the fear of a reaction he doesn’t know how to handle.
3. He wants to protect his perfect version
Sometimes, a man has to face dire circumstances. He becomes unstable financially or socially. Sometimes, he may lose respect in front of his boss. But he may only tell you sometimes about his position in the office. He will maintain his high status in front of you hypocritically. He will lie to you about his social status to rescue his honor.
4. He wants relief from undesirable tasks
Sometimes a man will lie to eliminate domestic responsibilities. If your man is a shirker, he will present logic to keep himself away from different responsibilities. He may convince you to do the domestic task by talking about his hectic duty in the office. Sometimes a lie is to cover up something he does not want to do.
5. He is insecure about the relationship
A man may be insecure about his relationship with you. He may lie to hide his authentic self from you. He will not tell you his problems if you are short-tempered or immature. He will not demand such a thing which is problematic for you. He will lie to you to promote strong compatibility because he is worried due to the uncertainty of your relationship.
6. He does not have true maturity
If a man is not mature enough to hold a relationship firmly, he will lie unintentionally. He is not aware of the consequences of this bad habit. He does not know how it will destroy his relationship. Due to a lack of wisdom, he lies in every field to secure his societal position.
7. He has a deceiving nature
If a man has deceived many women before you, he will lie to you to hide his past. He will get into the habit of lying, and never break those habits. He may convince you by presenting fake arguments if you inquire about his wrongdoings. Especially if you have submissive nature, he will never tell you about his affairs.
8. He wants to preserve his relationship
A man does not break a relationship with you on a minor issue. He wants to protect his relationship, and may think the only way to do that is to lie. He does not blame you intentionally. He handles all kinds of circumstances independently to keep his partnership sturdy.
9. He feels a shame to tell his reality
If your man has committed a mistake and does not want to share it with you, he will lie. If you do not have mutual understanding, he will feel the disgrace of sharing his negative aspects of life with you.
10. He is over-conscious about his relationship
When a man is over-conscious about his relationships, he keeps everything under wraps. He does all the affairs of life thoughtfully. He lies in a tough time to maintain his loving relationship.
Conclusion
A man will rarely betray you if he loves you sincerely. A man often lies to shield himself from reactions that he doesn’t think he can handle. He fears your response so that he will not tell you the reality. A man occasionally lies to deal with difficult situations. To protect his honor, he will lie to you. If you give a man a lot of work, he might lie to avoid doing household chores. He might tell lies to keep his true self from you. There are many reasons a person might lie–not all of them malicious. Understanding the reasons will help you talk to you partner about what is going on.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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