GENTS LETS BE HONEST
Women are not things. Women are people. Funny. Some guys take care of things better than people. Why do healthy boundaries exist for a car but not a wife? No smoking. No drinking. You buy insurance for accidents but no life insurance for your wife. You detail your car but don’t detail a love letter to your wife. You store your car in a safe place but let any attractive woman access you. A woman can last a lifetime. The car lasts 8 years max. Funny how messed up priorities are.
What makes a relationship work?
Many guys don’t know.
What makes a car work?
Every man seems to know.
Life is about priorities. We improve where we want. We make time for what we want. We care for what we want. It’s all about priority. There is no such thing as “can’t”. There is only such thing as “won’t”.
WHAT YOU WON’T DO
Guys. A lot of times you’re not honest with yourselves. The type of honesty I’m discussing is effort. How much effort do you really put into caring for a woman?
Life is about priorities. We improve where we want. We make time for what we want. We care for what we want. It’s all about priority.
I know the arguments. I hear the comments. I understand. Ungrateful women exist. Unfaithful women exist. Selfish people take advantage. Yeah, I know. The thing is…not every woman is ungrateful, unfaithful, or selfish.
Many are polar opposite.
A history of hurt is not the future of life. Life is not filled with people who forever hurt you. Life is an experience. There can be no good without bad. There can be no humility without humiliation. There can be no riches without poverty.
Life is struggle. Life is loss. In struggle hard work produces solid character. In loss a lesson for how to win is found.
We must not excuse laziness or delusional stereotypes because of bad personal experiences. Lack of effort is just that. Lack of effort. Be honest.
DO YOU REALLY TAKE CARE OF YOUR WOMAN?
This isn’t an attack against all men. This is a conversation about some guys. Well maybe a lot of guys. Not all. This article addresses the guys women complain about.
A history of hurt is not the future of life. Life is not filled with people who forever hurt you. Life is an experience. There can be no good without bad.
This article is about the guys who 1) rely on a woman’s credit to live because they can’t qualify for an apartment alone, 2) contribute barely half the bills, 3) need women to work full time to afford necessities, 4) expect diner to be cooked but don’t clean, 5) work as much as women outside the home but a fraction of it inside, and 6) can’t be bothered with a date because they need to play HALO.
Yes, you all.
Traditional women never did any of the things your partner does. It is delusional for you to expect a woman to do double the load of you. Historically, a woman got a good deal for being traditional.
A traditional woman was not required to 1) have insurance (for any reason), 2) contribute a single dollar to anything, 3) did not have to call 911 for her safety, 4) did not have to debate what was cheating (religiously men understood adultery a sin), 5) did not have to borrow on credit for necessities, and 6) didn’t have to worry about affording a child.
Many modern women today worry about all these things. A man has always been seen to a woman to lighten her burden, make her life easier (not harder) and offer safety.
A lot of guys are not doing that.
THE CAR ANALOGY
Women are not things. I’m not saying women should be cared for like cars. What I’m explaining is the amount of effort many guys put into cars. They wash them, keep them clean, store them in safe places, and maintenance them regularly.
Guys if you are not putting in at least as much effort into your relationship as your car you have a serious issue.
A car is worth nowhere near a woman’s life. There should be no reason you take care of a car better than your woman.
IF YOU HAVE BOUNDARIES WITH YOUR CAR HAVE BOUNDARIES WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Boundaries. They are healthy. Boundaries are rules you place for the wellbeing of whatever. A lot of people get on Mike Pence for not being alone with women.
That’s exactly what men should do if they are married. Heterosexual men should not be alone with non-family women if they are married. It’s about preventing consequences. If we can park a car in a garage just in case…guys you can refuse to be alone with another woman just in case.
Easy to understand the analogy, right?
Good.
There are others but my point stands.
MAITENANCE IS AN ACTION YOU TAKE WHEN NOTHING IS WRONG
Guys. You understand why you change oil. You know if you don’t something will probably break. When the milage comes due to change your oil rarely does the car break. Over time the car will act up. Eventually ignoring basic maintenance will result in your car breaking.
Relationships are the same.
Maintenance on relationships is about doing something before something is wrong.
Go to counseling when there is no reason to counsel. Decide to show gratitude when the other partner is already grateful. Try to make your woman fall in love with you when she is already in love with you. Try to win her heart when you already won it.
Maintenance. If you can do it with a car, you can do it with your woman.
OBJECTIVITY IS THE BEST EYE TO USE
A car standard is a very low standard. That’s the point. The car is a vehicle which gets you from point A to point B. A woman is a necessary component which allows you to leave legacy, have strong emotional support and enjoy rare pleasures not easily found elsewhere.
We can all agree a woman has more value than a car. This is an easy objective to agree on. Women. Analyze your guy. Does your guy take precautions to keep your relationship in a safe place? Does your guy maintenance your love when it isn’t exhausted? Does your guy instill healthy boundaries to prevent possible mistreatment?
Ladies find a man. Stop entertaining guys. You can spot guys. They are different than men. Read the analogies again. They make sense. It’s easy to understand. The comparisons are very simple. If a guy takes care of their cars better than you there’s a problem. Don’t let a guy treat you less than a car.
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Resources:
1) The life of Christopher Knight Lopez a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”.
2) Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. “Let’s Get Serious: Communicating Commitment in Romantic Relationships”. (2011) Ackerman, Joshua Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT), Griskevicius, Vladas (University of Minnesota). Accessed 2 October 2022.
3) Transportation Research Procedia. “Main directions of improving the maintenance and repair of vehicle units in the Far North”. Volume 57, 2021, Pages 611–616. Accessed 2 October 2022.
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About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”. Christopher has opened over 7 businesses in his 15-year career. Christopher’s purpose is to take advantage of various market-driven opportunities. Christopher is a certified Master Project Manager (MPM), and Accredited Financial Analyst (AFA). Christopher previously held his Series 65 securities license examination and was a Master Financial Planner (MFP). Christopher also held his General Lines — Life, Accident, Health & HMO. Christopher has managed a combined 286mm USD in reported Assets Under Management & Assets Under Advisement. Christopher has work experience in 33 countries, raised over 50mm USD for various businesses, and grossed over 13.0mm in his personal career. Christopher worked in the highly technical industries of: biotechnology, finance, securities, manufacturing, real estate, and residential mortgages. Christopher is a United States Air Force Veteran. Christopher has a passion for family, competitive sports, fishing, martial arts and advocacy for entrepreneurs. Christopher provides self-help classes for up-and-coming entrepreneurs. Christopher’s passion to mentor comes from belief that entrepreneurs need guidance. The world is full of conflicting information about entrepreneur identity. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.
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