Holiday time with family can be precious, but it can also bring up destructive patterns.
Millions experience extreme stress over the holidays because of the dysfunction in their families. Some may have it easier than others; but, remember, these maladjusted families come in all shapes and sizes. They can be mildly manipulative to outright abusive.
How are you able to better understand or at least tolerate your family during this special time of year? There is a strong spiritual belief that, before you are born, you chose which lessons you are going to learn in this lifetime. Then, you come into the world to a family that will help you learn those important lessons. So, while being with your relatives during this festive season, take a step back and remember how far you have come and how many lessons your family has taught you already and ask what lessons you still need to learn.
When you see that others keep repeating the same lessons and creating drama, manipulation, and abusive situations, take a look in the mirror. What can you learn from them?
We can’t take on their dysfunction. We can’t change others no matter how hard we try. We can only live in this moment and live our lives the way we were meant to. It’s up to our family members to live their lives the way they were meant to.
What will you do differently this year?
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