Kings, Iâve got a question.
Am I the only one who gets incredibly introspective in the week between Christmas and New Yearâs? The older I get, the deeper this introspection gets.
I mean, I start getting all introspective as soon as the calendar turns over to December, but it almost gets out of hand between Christmas and New Yearâs.
Opening my heart, mind, and spirit up to new beliefs has been the biggest thing to happen for me this year.
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Today and again next Friday, Iâm going to share a bit from that introspection. And in turn, this can hopefully lead you to set 2018 off on the right foot.
Next week, Iâm going to share a new approach to New Yearâs Resolutions that might land a little funny coming from a man who does what I do for a living.
Yeah, I think resolutions are bullshit. But more on that next week. #teaser
This weekâs topic has been a long time coming and its sure been beautiful to discover.
This week I want to introduce you to the concept of your divine self, or higher consciousness.
{here comes the record scratch sound effect}
You heard me. I said, weâre going to talk about your divine self.
If youâre anything like me, woo-woo stuff like this gives you the Willies. While this may be a broad brush, I think a lot of us like to believe what we can see, touch, or feel.
And we canât see, or touch this.
But we can sure feel it.
And itâs not a tactile thing either.
Iâve written extensively about Kings as of late. And maybe I should start by giving my definition of just what the heck a king is.
A king is someone who owns his life. He owns who heâs being in the world. And he takes responsibility for his relationships.
Itâs part of the warrior/king/lover/magician distinction. Iâll be explaining this the best way I know how in a future piece.
When a man is showing up authentically to the world and to himself, heâll usually fall into one of those categories. One isnât stronger than the other. But I kind of see the King as the overarching shell for all of them.
And part of the king distinction is what I see as the Prince/King parallel. A King â a mature man who leads from a benevolent and heart-based place is equal parts king and prince. In other words, heâs equal parts mature man and little boy.
The inner child never dies, but he works in harmony with the man to create the king.
Think of it like this. Unconditional love and playfulness comes from the little prince. Your leadership and your personal power, thatâs all king.
With that surprisingly academic definition aside, letâs talk about just what the heck your divine self is.
Letâs say that there was an important event from your past. A time when you performed well. You showed up real. And you shared a piece of your soul with the world.
All good, right?
Well, something feels off. Something feels like itâs missing. Something feels incomplete.
Iâll give you the example of my Accomplishment Coaching graduation this past January. Unlike last week, Iâm just going to talk about myself here.
I stood in front of the room and gave this impassioned share about my dad and how much I miss him and wished he was there. And how he influenced me to take ownership of my life.
While I have shared that I saw the spirits of my mom and dad in the back of the room after I was done, I havenât shared this part.
I felt so empty and alone after I was done. After all the acknowledgements and the love, the only words I really needed were mom and dad telling me âIâm so proud of you.â
I just wanted that validation.
Do you hear the paradox? Do you hear the Prince/King dynamic there?
While King Ryan was so proud and powerful sharing the story he did, Prince Ryan just wanted his parentsâ love.
In service of explaining what divine self is, letâs pull back.
Letâs remove my consciousness from both King and Prince. I want to be a mirror to my own soul.
From this place, hereâs what I would say to both King and Prince Ryan.
âI am in awe of you. I have seen your growth and your transformation over the past year, and I am simply in awe of you. Youâre a different man â mind, body, and soul. And I am absolutely in awe of you. And I am so damn proud of you!â
This scenario Iâve painted for you has been the divine self in action.
If you think about it â and since I got introduced to this concept I have thought about it constantly â this is the God that lives inside us all.
To put it another way, being able to look at yourself with a third person perspective can be the key to getting what your soul needs.
Getting back to the original point of this piece, my spiritual awakening has been the thing that has worked the best for me this year. It has been scary, nerve wracking, and confusing. And to be honest, I donât intellectually understand a bit of it.
But this is one of those things that while my intellect doesnât get it, my heart does. I canât explain it, but I feel it.
When it comes to a spiritual belief, Iâve always had a myopic view. Growing up in the buckle of the Bible Belt will do that for you.
It has been scary, nerve wracking, and confusing. And to be honest, I donât intellectually understand a bit of it.
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Opening my heart, mind, and spirit up to new beliefs has been the biggest thing to happen for me this year. Yâknow, other than moving, finishing the first draft of my second book (yeah, that happened.) I could go on.
Hereâs the coaching I want to pass along. The lesson I have learned from this has been surrender the old stories. Surrender your old idea of the truth. Embrace the actual truth.
Your truth!
From the feathers that prompted me to find out that my treasured friend Noreen had passed away, to actually starting to understand what the heck chakras are (and wearing a chakra balancing bracelet as well), this has been the single thing that has worked best for me this year.
What worked for you this year? What missed? And how I can I possibly support you in starting 2018 off on the right foot?
May I suggest a free sample coaching session. Shoot me an email at [email protected] and let me know what youâre up to, and weâll see how we can light your life on fire, just to watch it burn.
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Letâs look ahead to next week.
I mentioned the bovine excrement quality of most New Yearâs Resolutions. And hereâs why I see it like that.
Why are you making those resolutions? Do you want to lose those 20 pounds because you hate the way your fat, disgusting ass looks in the mirror? Or do you want to live a healthy life because you love yourself?
The latter is a real transformation. The former is why the January rush in most gyms dies off before Valentineâs Day.
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Happy New Year! And letâs all be kings!
Photo by Mish Sukharev