Can dating get any harder? Yes, if you’re a zero-waste vegan.
I used to think that whomever I dated had to be an environmentalist until I realized that by doing so I would reduce my dating pool too much…
I used to think that whomever I dated had to be passionate about their work until I realized that not everyone has the ability or freedom to do exactly what they want…
I used to hold whomever I dated to the highest standard (whatever that is) until I realized that even I couldn’t live up to that standard…
So here I am, in the new year, single, as I usually am, wondering how I can date as a self-proclaimed zero waste vegan without driving women (or myself) crazy.
The most recent woman I dated was great. I was wanting to embrace a vegan diet, but didn’t have the chutzpah to make it happen. She had been vegan for more than a decade after responding to a professor’s call to action during undergrad. Perfect! This was just the incentive/motivation/support I needed.
She was an occupational therapist who focused on at-risk babies. Not an environmentalist, but a person of service, committed to helping others in need (babies, for crying out loud!). Caring and compassion, doing work that most people would commend but shy away from. A noble profession. What more could I ask for in a partner?
My lifestyle. That was the “more” I was asking for.
- If I can’t find a water fountain and don’t have a reusable bottle or cup, I’ll go thirsty.
- If I want a cup of coffee to go but don’t have my mug, I’ll skip the treat.
- If I go shopping but forget a cloth bag, I’ll carry everything loose to my car.
To most people this is crazy/weird/different. To me it’s just normal.
My question to you is: How do you find a compatible partner without sacrificing your values?
I’ve heard that you should write down a list of what you are looking for in a partner, rank them in order of importance, being mindful that the top three or so are deal breakers. Those things that are so important that accepting anything less would be unacceptable.
- Minimalist – she must be committed to a rich life without frivolous spending
- Purposeful – she must be on a career path (or personal path if a healthy career path isn’t feasible) that supports having a positive impact on society; a life worthy of respect.
- Mindful – she must be mindful of the consequences and impact of her actions.
That list is totally easy to fulfill, right? Ummmmmmm. Not quite.
Am I alone in this?
If you maintain a lifestyle that makes it difficult to date, I’d like to hear about it. Maybe you are a long distance runner or a professional gambler. How do you find that balance? How do you make it work?
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