Beginning today, we will be rewarding the best comment of each day with a little time in the spotlight. We are a conversation, after all, and you guys are as much a part of that as any of us. We’ve had some pieces that have sparked great dialogue, and others that didn’t generate as much conversation as we’d like, but there’s one topic that’s never failed: porn.
Porn gets people riled up and typing away, and Erin is one of our most thoughtful and outspoken recent commenters on the topic. For that, she’s the inaugural recipient of our Good Comment of the Day.
It’s of course natural for men to find women beautiful and sexual. What isn’t so natural is how women are depicted through media and how often it’s shoved out there making it normalized. And the sad thing is that you have more young people growing up on porn—like never before. Boys who will wonder why their girlfriends don’t have cantaloupe breasts and girls who will wonder what’s wrong with their very real and natural breasts. And while there is a lot of sexual exploitation of women out there, there is must as much emotional exploitation of men will grow up not knowing how to really relate to women in an authentic and honest way because their only experience is with their hand and computer. But I am glad there are men out there talking about this, being honest about it and truly trying to be good men. We totally need that!
She followed that up with some insight on the situation presented in “The Professional”:
Men’s sexual nature is not violent or sadistic. But a lot of our seedier sexual media displays that cater to male urges are often portrayed as over the top dominating and slightly sadistic. And I don’t feel all warm and fuzzy because men (married or not) hired a woman and actually wanted her to orgasm. That orgasm is still all about him. Not to mention the number of married or committed men that do these kinds behind their woman’s back all the time, while girls like the one in the article try to give warm, fuzzy speeches about how good these men are because they wanted to know what her favorite color was and wanted to make her orgasm.
Erin’s passionate about her beliefs, but she still makes a point to acknowledge the other side of the coin. In both cases, she lets us know men and women ought to act, but then goes on to talk about how societal influences are messing that up. She’s ardent but open-minded, and that’s how we want all of our discussions to be.
Cheers, Erin! And to everyone else, don’t forget to comment. Why pass on the chance to see your name up in virtual, blogtastic lights?