Explanations for marital decline start with home economics: men are worth less they used to be. Among men with some college but no degrees, earnings have fallen 8 percent in the past 30 years, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, while the earnings of their female counterparts have risen by 8 percent.
“Women used to rely on men, but we don’t need to anymore,” said Teresa Fragoso, 25, a single mother in Lorain. “We support ourselves. We support our kids.”
For the first time there are more unwed than wed moms under 30. And it’s not just poor and minority moms, as the stereotype goes. The fastest growing group of unwed mothers is white women in their 20s. Some of those are poor and unwed on purpose to get government assistance. But a great number are not, choosing to have their baby without marrying the child’s father.
The question for us is what does this mean about men and dads? Are men failing to show up in these situations or are we being shut out? Or is it possibly that marriage is just an outdated social arrangement having nothing to do with parenting? Is is better to have kids out of wedlock than have them in a marriage that ends in divorce?
Let us know your thoughts.