A mom in the Bible Belt posted this story about her 5-year-old son, who wore a Daphne costume to preschool for Halloween:
And that’s where things went wrong. Two mothers went wide-eyed and made faces as if they smelled decomp. And I realize that my son is seeing the same thing I am. So I say, “Doesn’t he look great?” And Mom A says in disgust, “Did he ask to be that?!” I say that he sure did as Halloween is the time of year that you can be whatever it is that you want to be. They continue with their nosy, probing questions as to how that was an option and didn’t I try to talk him out of it. Mom B mostly just stood there in shock and dismay.
And then Mom C approaches. She had been in the main room, saw us walk in, and followed us down the hall to let me know her thoughts. And they were that I should never have “allowed” this and thank God it wasn’t next year when he was in Kindergarten since I would have had to put my foot down and “forbidden” it. To which I calmly replied that I would do no such thing and couldn’t imagine what she was talking about. She continued on and on about how mean children could be and how he would be ridiculed.
My response to that: the only people that seem to have a problem with it is their mothers.
Our response to her? More power to you. In a world where dressing your 5-year-old daughter in a harem costume is kosher (and all the effed-up gender issues that implies), a little boy choosing a Daphne costume is child’s play, pun intended. Plus, after Princess Boy, who can argue against letting your kid dress up as anything he wants?
i and my son move to florida after my divorce from my husband and now my son become gay because there are lot of gays in the new area we went to, I have tried everything to stop him from associating with the gay guys but he has already be coverted and even have a gay lover. i tell this to my friend from Africa who introduced me to this great spell caster who help me cast the spirit out of him and i am the happiest mom today. so i will advice you to contact the man on [email protected]… Read more »
When my son was 5 he dressed up as a Mutant Ninja Turtle for Halloween. I never feared that he would become one when he grew up but even if he did I would still love him. When my son was 6 he dressed up as The Mask, a character that Jim Carry played in a movie. I never feared that he would become green or decide to wear zoot suits with yellow fedoras when he grew up but even if he did I would still love him. The kid is innocent. He knows what he wants to be for… Read more »
I don’t support doing that to your kid! I don’t want to know you!!
1- In my opinion a man or a woman should dress, eat, kiss, love, and be whatever he or she wanna be. Thats it. I only dont know if the boy really wants to be a gay. Thats the boys decision. I am NOT gay. If my son would like to be dressed as Daphne I WOULD LET HIM do that. NO DIFERENCES FOR ME IF he is gay or not, but if he is happy.
My only question is: Does the boy REALLY want to be gay? If he does: BE IT!!!!
PS: He is cute!!!!
He looks so cute. 🙂
You are the MOTHER OF THE YEAR and a wonderful person!
Way to go Sarah! I live in Topeka KS and I have always thought of people from the midwest as being narrow minded when it came to letting people express themselves and regarding sexuality.
I fully support you and I wish more parents were like you.
You should support your child no matter what!
The rational, intelligent part of my brain knows this mom is 100% right. Kids should be kids and dressing up as Daphne for Halloween is no big deal. And it’s really none of the other moms’ business at all. I know all of that and I commend the mom for doing the right thing. And yet I’d be lying if I said the thought of my son dressed up as Daphne didn’t bother me. Don’t get me wrong, I’d still let him dress up that way and I’d never put a damper on his creativity. But I can’t help it,… Read more »
First of all good for you for letting your son dress how he pleases on HALLOWEEN, second of all I keep hearing a lot about if your son is gay or not. I don’t think your son is gay and for people to question that because he decides to wear a dress on the one day out of the year it’s cool to wear one if your not a girl is ridiculous. I think people are really stupid and need to mind their own damn business..and so what if your son does turn out to be gay..it’s not their..kid…so everyone… Read more »
I am glad that you let your son dress in whatever costume he wanted. Those negative people are making a big deal out of nothing at all. So your son wanted to dress as Daphne, so what?? I as a mother appreciate the total support you and your family give your son. He has a great family how lets him express his feelings! Great job! <3 😀
Reading this story yesterday I decided to think about the psycho-social effect of this kid dressing as he chose to. I came to the conclusion that the other moms should get over it and shut up. http://fishandsteak.blogspot.com/2010/11/late-to-table.html
Kudos to the mom for not caving in to “peer”–and I use that term sarcastically–pressure. She’s definitely on my list of heroes. If someone’s daughter went as a male character (like Charlie Chaplin), would it be as big a deal–or would the mom get flack for failing to imbue her child with girl power? When will the gender pressure end? They’re kids, for God’s sake! Is it better he grow up internalizing male stereotypes and feeling like less of a man for dressing as a girl? (I also love Fleishman’s query about the harem costume. JonBenet, anyone?) Bravo to The… Read more »
If it was me and I had a son I would really upset those f’ing bible beaters with my foul mouth. He is a little kid let him play with whatever toys he wants or dress up. it was Halloween for crying out loud!(within reason obviously not weapons) He shows he is creative and that should not be stifled in a child. it is a double standard most parents won’t think twice if a girl plays blocks or with trucks which my daughter does but she also plays with dolls and countless other toys! Or as was stated a girl… Read more »