I am a Yogi who loves the Yoni.
A Yogi is a spiritual seeker whose lifelong goal is to find the divine within himself or herself. To realize that joy is always alive within ourselves. We have to seek it and strive for it. My yogic path is that of Raja Yoga and Karma Yoga.
Raja Yoga is the Royal Path (“raja” means king), the yoga of meditation. Its focus is to quiet the mind. The practitioner’s attention is fixed on an object, mantra, or concept. Whenever the mind wanders it is brought back to the object of concentration. In time the mind will cease wandering and become completely still. Raja yoga practitioners aim to establish “a mental link with the supreme source of all spiritual energy and power, the Supreme Soul, to free the individual soul from misery, pain, fear, illness, and phobias, and enable the soul to experience peace, happiness, and lasting health and prosperity.”
Karma Yoga is the yoga of service to others and God. Karma yoga practitioners renounce the fruits of action. Activities are assumed for the benefit of the greater good, without concern for personal benefit. The path of Karma-Yoga is described in detail in the Bhagavad-Gita: “Be intent on the action; not on the fruits of action.”
The Yoni is the Sanskrit term for the female genitals. In Indian philosophy, the Yoni symbolically represents the female part of the divinity Shakti or Devi and is symbolically represented by a stone of different shapes but which in any case has a slit, recalling the female nature.
Di Binh Giang — self-taken at the National Museum of Vietnam History., Pubblico Dominio, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=2889577
After years of self-flagellation and self-criticism, I have come to the loving conclusion that I am a highly spiritual sexual person. I have a gift that allows me to feel deep and intense spiritual and sexual joy. I have also come to accept and venerate this duality in myself.
But this juxtaposition comes with its peculiar consequences. They are energies in me that are deeply intertwined with very different projections. I have often struggled to ride them instead of being doused by either of them. After a lot of fabulous failures and faux pax’s, here are a few suggestions on how to use them for transformational personal and spiritual growth.
- Decide to be a Yogi first. Then worship the Yoni. This is a lesson in deciding who drives the energy. If you are led by the Yoni. It will lead to grand adventures and deep disappointments. It’s going to be a giant rollercoaster. If you like that kind of life. Swap the driver. Worship the Yoni first. Then also be a Yogi. Deciding to be a Yogi will be a watershed moment in life. You `wake up’ as Sam Harris eloquently teaches on his various channels and realize that our entire life has been lived `lost in thought’. You realize that your mind and your attachment to its ceaseless stream of thoughts is the cause of almost all our suffering. You first settle down to the business of taming your mind and training all action to be detached. That becomes the primary focus in life. Then you worship the Yoni.
- Worship the Yoni without deceit. There is no shame in Yoni worship. As long as it is deceitless. If you try to manipulate this act. If you try to betray trust or buy it…it will fail you. It will leave you hollow and lonely. You will go from Yoni to Yoni and remain deeply unsatisfied. You will become a zombie who can’t find his hands. Yoni is the sexual energy that demands absolute purity and respect. It is a sacred force in us. It rises intending to forge the creation of a new life. It has to be taken very very seriously. Any misuse or abuse will cause deep psychological holes in your psyche. Like acid on cloth. It will burn through you.
- Use your sexual energy to create your unique life, beyond sex. The most creative souls that have come and gone before us were highly sexual beings. Picasso, Chaplin, Rajneesh, Lady Diana, Tagore, Jung, Madonna, Feynman…all giants in their professional lives were highly sexual beings. They harnessed their sexuality to feed their imagination and raise their gift to a superhuman level. They acknowledged and worshiped the `Shakti’ in themselves as the path to ascend into a higher self. Sexual energy is masked creativity and creativity is daring to live an authentic life that delights the soul.
I really liked how Jim Jarmusch talks about having a creative life;
“Nothing is original. Steal from anywhere that resonates with inspiration or fuels your imagination. Devour old films, new films, music, books, paintings, photographs, poems, dreams, random conversations, architecture, bridges, street signs, trees, clouds, bodies of water, light and shadows. Select only things to steal from that speak directly to your soul. If you do this, your work (and theft) will be authentic. Authenticity is invaluable; originality is non-existent. And don’t bother concealing your thievery — celebrate it if you feel like it. In any case, always remember what Jean-Luc Godard said: “It’s not where you take things from — it’s where you take them to.”
[MovieMaker Magazine #53 — Winter, January 22, 2004 ]”
― Jim Jarmusch
4. Don’t use your sexual energy to gain power. Use it to give pleasure.
We love sex because our brain loves it. Sexual pleasure creates mind-altering substances like dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and vasopressin that influence our state of consciousness. In this euphoric state, we have the choice to commune with higher consciousness to co-create. Or we can commune with our amygdala and temporarily pacify our fears.
Serving another sexually is the way to enjoy this power. Using it as a weapon to imprison another under their spell is a weaponization of this gift. Don’t play with her heart for the sake of your bloated head.
“So she thoroughly taught him that one cannot take pleasure without giving pleasure and that every gesture, every caress, every touch, every glance, every last bit of the body has its secret, which brings happiness to the person who knows how to wake it. She taught him that after a celebration of love the lovers should not part without admiring each other, without being conquered or having conquered, so that neither is bleak or glutted or has the bad feeling of being used or misused.”
― Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha
The Sexual Spiritualist is a secret society. Once you decide that you will live the path of being a sexual spiritualist you have to reconcile to it as your little secret. It’s a mantra that loses its power if revealed to another. Your practice is yours to design. It’s your way to find your way to the core of who you are and you have decided to use all your senses to achieve this. What is the ideal blend depends upon you. How far this search will get you depends on you. No one has walked this path the way you are walking it. You will meet people on your path who will teach you things that aid or ail your progress. It’s all part of your vivid one-of-a-kind experience rug.
Coda:
Using all our senses to transform into super-beings is a worthy cause. Sexual energy used just for sex is a waste of a superpower. It needs to be blended into our spiritual lives and guide our curiosity and compassion. Enduring Ecstacy is a divine drug that lies at the mouth of this river. Meet you there.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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