No. 2 in a Series
What do you fear might happen if you lived more from your heart?
Conventional wisdom teaches that the heart is weak and fragile. Beliefs such as, “The heart is mushy and unmanly” led to clamping a lid on my emotional openness. “Being open leads to being taken advantage of” helped me grow into a control freak. “Heartbreak is devastating” greatly inhibited my ability to give and receive love.
Except for magical moments, such as falling in love or being in nature, I kept my sensitivity hidden behind protective walls, while developing my athletic, sexual and intellectual abilities.
My life changed dramatically with the knowledge that:
- My heart is my authentic self; and
- I become disrespectful of others, the environment and myself only when disconnected from my heart.
When heart-connected I am one with myself, everything around me, and to a power that is greater than myself. At those times my behavior is respectful and my life is flowing and fulfilling. When I can stay in that consciousness in the face of difficulties, I am empowered and my own hero. Both my personal work and joy is continuing to learn how to live connected to my heart more of the time.
I believe that the heart is a metaphor for purity and love. Emotions that emanate from my heart are warm, tender, joyful, compassionate and passionate. Heartfelt feelings are reflected in behavior that is accepting, forgiving, caring and open to learning. Laughter is not stuck in my throat, sadness is not repressed behind my eyes, and orgasm is not restricted to my genitals.
Only when I’m disconnected from my heart do cold and hard emotions emerge such as anger, jealousy, and irritation. Behaviors that accompany heartless feelings include being greedy, argumentative, controlling, judgmental, blaming and a victim.
Since I have a hard time understanding complex ideas, I try to make things as simple as I can. This was accomplished when I realized that when I’m connected to my heart, compassion and an openness to learning are always present.
I chose this image as the cover for Becoming Your Own Hero because it so magically represents that unique and special place that sets apart a heart connection from all other moments.
For Your Journey
- Attached is a more complete list of heart-connected and disconnected feelings and behaviors. As you look over the list pay particular attention to how you are reacting to what is new to you. Do you dismiss it or judge it, or are you open and interested in learning more? To see the list click here.
- Think about and begin a list of the fears that inhibit your ability to be more heart-connected and the beliefs that create those fears.
- Write down the resources that you have found helpful in increasing your ability to be more heart-connected.
- Share-it-forward. Share with another person what it means to be both heart-connected and heart-disconnected.
First in the Series: From Head to Heart
Next Week: # 3 – Self-Respect: It’s an Inside Job
BECOMING YOUR OWN HERO illuminates a path available to us all to attain the kind of personal power demonstrated by our most revered and inspirational heroes. Marianne Williamson, #1 New York Times best-selling author said, “I highly recommend this illuminating and touching look into the possibilities of staying connected to our hearts, even when facing difficult situations.”
Art Image: Le Corsaire courtesy of H. Lee ShapiroPhoto: