Having no regrets can produce a multitude of emotions including, comfort, ease, joy, and excitement, as well as fear and sorrow.
Having no regrets builds strength of character, emotional health, and can provide many learning opportunities:
1. Life’s too short to not make every effort to achieve true, authentic happiness. My ex-wife and I both came to the conclusion that we didn’t fully uplift one another, and decided to divorce…for the second time. Together we are toxic and have recognized in order to be able to salvage our love for another and be great examples for our two young daughters, it would be best for us to be a family in separate households for everyone’s health.
2. Unconditional love is a powerful drug. Ironically, I have unconditional love for my ex-wife. She has taught me so many positive lessons and offers no judgment of my bisexuality. I have been able to grow as a bisexual man because of this lack of judgment from friends, family, and my ex-wife. It has allowed me to be truly authentic and confident with my desires and needs, and I finally voiced what was lacking in my marriage. My authenticity (sometimes bluntness and intenseness) and confidence also gave my ex-wife the confidence to be able to express her true desires and needs, too.
3. Regret only creates bitterness, negativity, and stress. Having regret does not allow one to grow and learn from past mistakes to become better, wiser individuals, and suggests failure. One fails only if continuous improvement and lifelong learning end. If I regretted my marriage, I would be turning away from the blessings of my children and discovery of my authentic self and my growth and perspective would not be where it is today.
4. Moving forward, I will be able to take my experiences from my marriage(s) to be a better partner in the future and hopefully be wiser. My ex and I both will be able to better teach our daughters how best to evaluate their future relationships. Moving forward, my future is not what I envisioned it would be, but futures never are. I am embracing a brave new world which is frightful, exciting, and challenging, but it is the authentic path I was destined to pave.
I accept it and have no regrets.
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