A little before each turning point moment I have had I was met with many obstacles and realizations. I believe these are what forced me to have these eurekas! and later accept each newborn phase I would experience. I’ve detailed a few of my life obstacles from perspectives of turning point moments because of the point I was trying to get across at the time. How to overcome obstacles and rebuke insecurities so we don’t break to pieces.
This is important because this time the point is to revisit these obstacles and expose the areas we’ve swept under the rug and said we will deal with later. We’re going to find the realizations that anxiety is making scary for no reason, and uncover each one. It’s going to be ugly, it’s going to hurt, and it’s going to be tough, but we need to find each one we have hidden to take to FEAR. He is waiting so he can teach us to stop making excuses.
The culture of my generation is to hide. We’ve been foreshadowed for lots of reasons. Today however we are looking into our own behavior. What causes us to run from realization and why we are so frightened of it.
It’s hard to be more in a society that encourages us to be less. Leveling up means leaving people behind. We have to separate to lead as an example or to catch up to, it changes our perspective and helps us grow. We simply view life differently. It gets lonely so we avoid it. We run back to the comfort zone and slam the door because it’s easy. Realization knocks and pleads you reconsider letting her in. But we hide and pretend we aren’t home because Anxiety is in the comfort zone with us and she isn’t letting go.
Inside one of the hidden hills aka our obstacles is the realization we cope with avoidance because we feel unfulfilled. We’re empty, and facing that is terrible. The society has given up on a whole. The human connection dwindles on the daily. So to cope we open ourselves up to things like polyamory, fake social media accounts, or late night picture exchanges for a sense of something. Some kind of attention.
I am a proponent of to each their own. Whatever tickles your pickle hey go for it but without being reckless or a reckloose. If you’re unsatisfied or unfulfilled don’t go around making other people feel that way for a sense of companionship. We want people to stoop to levels instead of rising up, it’s a broken system don’t fall into it. Rise above even if that means it’s just you, all alone.
I am still trying to pinpoint the exact time in History where it became taboo to express human needs within all platforms. We’re shunned for voicing an opinion. We’re ungrateful if we express a need for more of something, like being heard and understanding from a life partner, how about some time off of work after burning the candle at both ends, and lunch with a friend who is always “busy”. But we’re told we are entitled if they request something from us and we return the same effort they gave, none. So the answer is to avoid the situation entirely instead of allowing realization to do her job. Here she exposes the fact we can’t win, people who are unhappy will make sure you feel the same way. Remember misery needs company. It’s the, you’re d*mned if you do or don’t part of adulthood. Telling another person you are unhappy triggers the same sensation inside them. Stimuli!! It CAUSES them to have to face their own realizations that they are avoiding and hiding from.
But what happens when we are the ones causing the unhappiness in someone else? Because we’ve spent so long avoiding making a decision, an issue, a person or a need our own insecurities make us run and anxiety awaits you with open arms. To h*ll in a handbasket with it all, right?
The Floor is Responsibilities
If I had to pick one area of life that my Generation Y counterparts cannot handle it would be the skill of becoming an adult. It scares the living sh*t out of people my age to realize they are an adult. Yes, you are pushing 30 or pushing 40 and I am talking about you. We make all kinds of excuses to not have to grow up. Leave the financial burdens we will be crippled with for the rest of our lives aside the excuses are not based on this. The excuses we make have to do with the inability to do the simplest of tasks. Making an executive decision. The realization of having to make decisions on our own means we can’t blame someone else for the outcome. We have to be responsible for the consequences of our decisions. If you hurt someone it’s your fault, if you can’t maintain a steady form of employment it’s your fault, if you can’t understand why people don’t take you seriously your actions will show you where the fault line lies.
It means there is the real-time possibility we’re going to fail. That’s what adults do, they fail over and over again until something goes right. From that right choice, we lay a foundation and build upon it. They harness responsibility by allowing realization to saddle up the horse. It’s simple yet we let anxiety tell us otherwise and believe in her more than we believe in ourselves.
The key to realization lies within reality. They are two peas in a real pod. They exist and live an unadulterated lifestyle. They are real. Real has nothing to hide or make excuses for. You know who Real is hitched to? Genuine. Realizing our deliberate tendencies to avoid tough situations is the only way to get through it. Burying the situation doesn’t mean it’s disappeared. It will be there waiting for you just like the beating heart under the floorboards. Anxiety is counting on you to bury your problems, it’s her torture ammo.
Lastly, your actions are what determines your place in the world. No matter how image obsessed this place becomes the way you make people feel and how others make you feel is what leaves a mark. Behavior determines your success, your failure, and how well you can maneuver and balance it all. Owning up to realization’s lessons as she guides the way is our goal for this series. Panic and Anxiety have no place here so leave them home.
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