The holidays wouldn’t be the holidays without dealing with that one difficult family member. So how do you deal with those difficult family members over the holiday season? I have four ways of dealing with them right now.
The first thing is to realize that we kind of have to accept that fact that they are who they are. And you know it’s easier when we accept the fact that they are maybe negative or maybe ask a bunch of questions or maybe they’re really nosey but to accept that and to allow them to be.
Secondly we can accept it and we can allow them to be who they are but don’t have to spend a lot of one-on-one time with them. Remember one-on-one time usually means that they’re asking those questions that you don’t want to answer, or the questions that might not have an answer to, or the questions that you don’t think that they deserve the answer to. So when you limit that one-on-one time and you hang out a group setting it usually makes them have to actually talk with the group or be one with the group instead of asking you those questions you don’t want to answer.
The third thing we can do is to realize not to take it personally. It’s not up to us to take it personally because we don’t have to. Realize is all in their head — what they asked for, the comments they make, is based on their past and their history and all that great stuff, so we can kind of just let it go. We don’t have to respond and we definitely don’t have to retaliate or take any more of our brain cells to figure out what’s going on in their head.
Last, but not least, is that if you can’t handle it anymore it might be time for a comfortable, calm confrontation. Sometimes you have to confront other people and tell them about your life and explain the situation. Use a positive calm manner for them to understand. Realize that they might accept it or they might reject it but if it comes to that point maybe it’s time for you to tell your truth. You know the holidays are supposed to be a good time but remember it’s good to be happy is good to be authentic and if something’s on your mind or something is troubling you if you can say it in a positive way, it goes miles to change the situation for seasons and holidays to come.
Because that’s what we want. We want to get along with our family and friends and don’t we? But at the same time we want to be heard and we don’t want to be run over. To have a wonderful holiday season dealing with that difficult family member make it a learning experience, make it fun, and make it challenging because that can actually make it as an experience instead of a personal attack on you.
Dedicated to advocating a new perspective for people, and offering them the necessary tools to create an authentic, fabulous life - Ashley Berges, syndicated talk show host of Live Your True Life PERSPECTIVES, creator, and host of The Celebrity PERSPECTIVE (a new web series launching this fall), is also renowned life coach, in-demand keynote speaker, contemporary philosopher, acclaimed author and clinical psychologist.
With over 100k followers on social media and a show that airs six days a week, both nationally and internationally on multiple platforms & networks including iTunes, Spreaker, iHeart Radio, Radio Monterey, KLIF 570 News, and Identify Radio UK. Ashley, often called “The Man Whisperer,” champions her knowledge and experience to coach people on how to: expose dating, sex and relationship pitfalls, deftly navigate through divorce, face the challenges of the family afterward, cultivate influential leadership skills, and champion your true life. She has authored the celebrated book “Live Your True Life” and her latest “The 10 Day Challenge to Live Your True Life,” the guidebook for busy people who want to make valuable changes to their life.