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I was raised in a family with values of acceptance, being of service to yourself and your community. To honor, support, and to love came as natural as breathing. Those values gave me a great sense of freedom to allow the flow of life to come and go at its will. I knew what shoes to wear in order to make the journey and I knew when it was time to stop and rest in the moment, be in the knowledge and the fact of karma. The knowledge of the flow where you get back in return to what you give out to the world. The lessons of intimacy are laced in faith and trust.
You cannot be in an intimate conversation, expressing your sense of freedom with a stranger, and have an in-depth and compassionate conversation.
I am not talking about being in constant state of agreement, but being in a conversation of developing ideas and expecting them to be aware of a communal sense of unity of purpose. You are talking to a stranger, someone you just met, and you expect to be on the same page. You know the truth. It’s like going fishing, you just have to wait.
Then there are those sometimes your first meeting with a stranger is someone you have known most of your life. Right in the middle of the conversation, you have a sense of knowing, the conversation was beginning to go awry. You have met another aspect of yourself and there is a need to welcome home the stranger.
Sometimes the stranger is the energy of a new person and other times the stranger is a reflection of some form of ourselves. But, love is the food of which we must eat of daily, not fear and doubt.
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In the very moment of going awry, a transformation is greeting you at the door of a new conversation and having an authentic exchange of thoughts and ideas. You are meeting yourself to see the reflection of your humanness in another human being’s story. You are stepping into a mirror of wanting to understand the story of being a mirror of being present for life to unfold. The break of dawn is a new arrival of our human day, our chance to be in the presence of the cycle of life. A dawning is an opened door, an opened portal.
Sometimes you open doors for your own learning and without realizing it, you have helped birth a living lesson you had not planned to explore. There is always a larger plan in action, waiting for you to acknowledge its existence. I have learned to cease to resist the story being revealed. I must remember I am an integral paragraph of the human story. The exchange, the dialogue is an important aspect of the developing chapters of our human lives.
We learn from each other, in the midst of our coming together to break bread and drink the elixir of exchange. Sometimes it is hard to sit at the breakfast and dinner table when you wanted lunch. While other times, it is breakfast you want to eat all day. Just be honest about what you are seeking.
Coming to terms with the true content of your human story can be very revealing, it has the capacity to create a sense of a divine freedom or a compulsive cage of fear. Knowing who you are and your possibilities of movement creates a net of freedom which holds you in a peaceful state of trust.
Even when fear and doubt come and sit with you and makes an order of a full meal, you have the choice to eat what you need to consume and how you will digest it. There are times in life when meals just leave you hungry. Sometimes you just have to greet the lightness of the meal in the midst of the darkness of the room.
Then, you meet a stranger and get a feeling, a flashback of what love felt like.
Then you decide to become vulnerable.
You drop your guard and allow yourself to be open and present.
You find yourself living in the light and you almost see too much.
The hopes of knowing intimacy has come to meet you.
Then you find you have learned just enough to allow yourself to know the touch and taste of life, the energy of love. Sometimes the stranger is the energy of a new person and other times the stranger is a reflection of some form of ourselves. But, love is the food of which we must eat of daily, not fear and doubt.
So, being born into a family that taught me to express the healing portion of love, I value my freedom to love. I value my freedom to speak of love and be love in action. Still, I find not everyone wants to have an intimate conversation of revealing oneself in the acts of love. People can mouth the words of love, but being those words is another thing to be revealed.
Love is a dialogue of development and our conversations of love create the intimacy of love.
So, before you claim your statements of love, be sure you are building a contract of intimacy. There is no freedom in disagreement or the lack of resolution of that disagreement. Freedom is the state of allowance and trust. To be able to develope the state of love in action, you must have the freedom to know you have trust, the compassion to be intimate with your feelings.
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We’re full of life. You show me love. I am humbled. Vunerable. Excited too.