I want to ask — Why?
Why can’t I immediately respond to a message or call? How does replying to someone instantly make us ‘individuals with little or no other things to do’? Why can’t I just be a quick responder?
Am I the only person who takes — ‘I will be always there for you’ way too seriously? I mean, I hope not.
It’s one thing to actually be busy and it’s another to intentionally avoid people just because we have the liberty of doing so. This whole idea that ‘we shouldn’t make ourselves too available’ because people will take advantage of us has never made sense to me. Yes, there is a difference between ‘making time for people’ and being ‘too available’ but I don’t believe that this can impact our perception among people. If they believe that it makes them better or an interesting person because they are ‘not readily available’ then this is some form of deformed insecurity to make oneself feel relevant at all times. Yes, because once someone starts playing ‘hard to get’ then they unknowingly, but gradually push themselves into the phase of ‘hard to like’.
Think about it when someone asks for your response, you don’t know if they are in a hurry or the extent to which they might need you. Life is hard as it is and I sure don’t want to make it complicated for people and not when they are relying on me for that split-second response. I like to put myself in their shoes to gauge the situation because it only makes me a gentler and more nurturing human inside. And yes there is nothing wrong to be this good of a human. In other words, be unapologetically kind.
I also believe being available for every small or big thing has the ability to make us stand out among a crowd. How do you ask? Because you are not being selfish but a compassionate person that people will remember in the long run. Don’t get me wrong — it’s perfectly fine to be super busy. Many of us are and have so many things on our plate but I also know how people would just enjoy playing hard to get. You are free to be someone who values time and understands how to prioritize various factors in life — but at one point or other, one needs to practice shifting their perspectives and think about others. And so in terms of availability if you can do something for someone, then you should.
A lot of the time, being kind has been synonymous with being a people-pleaser. It’s sad how in the modern world, being kind just doesn’t only exhibit kindness of the heart anymore but some other hidden agenda. Whether one is showing kindness, love, or giving someone time, it is important for society to see that it’s true and genuine kindness they are exhibiting and not because they have nothing better to do. Is it that difficult to understand?
With covid-19 and the emergence of the virtual dependency to the max, being fully present can help people so much. I like to think of it as a gesture and of course, I don’t want to impose it on people but can we maybe take some time to be there for people? To listen to others when they need us the most — to lend our shoulders when people need support? Wow, that actually rhymed. Listening to someone in times of need is a tool for healing and in the silence of it, one can even hear their own unspoken words. Even if you don’t seek out help or support, but if someone thinks of you in their ordeal then try to give them a hand and you will feel a strange connection to your own soul.
Thus the virtue of compassion and being available to people in need is universally valued.
Remember the more you give, the more you will get from your contribution to a beautiful and loving world.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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