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It makes me nervous to single out white men, but bear with me. I’m doing it supportively, not as an attack.
White men are often blamed for many things, including a lack of diversity in the workplace.
By now you likely know I don’t play the “All men are…” or “[Insert any group] men are…” game.
I see each man as an individual and believe you deserve to be known as the unique man you are.
But what do you do when you are viewed as a perpetrator or contributor to others’ struggles? And how can you use your power to create more good in the workplace and in the world, without claiming that what’s happening is your fault?
Michael Welp has a powerful answer.
Michael is a dear friend and colleague who created a company called White Men As Full Diversity Partners. He has supported white men for decades to support diversity, while also liberating them from the limitations of white male culture that cause suffering and isolation.
It may not yet be obvious how these two topics intersect but Michael explains how white male cultural beliefs such as Rugged Individualism, Rationality over Emotion and Status & Rank over Connection, create pain and isolation for men too!
Michael has led his trainings at well-known companies around the world with incredible results. In this conversation we cover…
- The high cost for men who unknowingly conform to White Male Culture
- Eight Critical Leadership Skills and how to become a trusted leader, while becoming a better spouse and parent
- The shift from defending yourself to taking responsibility — without needing to be at fault or take the blame
- The benefit of diversity and inclusion for customer relationships and loyal followers
- A surprising cause of men’s careers being derailed
After spending time in South Africa right after apartheid ended, Nelson Mandela became one of Michael’s inspirations. He wrote a letter saying he was astonished to see Mandela released from prison, after 27 years, embracing the white men who imprisoned him.
“You showed that love is the greatest force for change,” Michael wrote. “I want you to know it’s the same thread of love I carry that you passed on to the white men in South Africa.”
Michael has inspired me for years and I think this conversation will both inform and inspire you too.
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A version of this post was originally posted on ShanaJamesCoaching.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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