Over the past 15 years, I’ve watched many men try to gain confidence and attractiveness by turning to rules and scripts.
As I’ve coached men, I’ve become clear that you can throw out the rules and “right words to say!”
You don’t need them to have success in love or business, when you cultivate deeper levels of connection and awareness.
And it’s actually more simple than you might imagine.
One of my favorite exercises I do with men is the “Silent Approach.” You may have heard me talk about it before.
A man walks up to me (or virtually stands in front of me on a video conference), without saying a word. After 10-30 seconds I start to let him know what he’s communicating to me, without ever speaking.
I share the deeper layers he unknowingly gives off, like an invisible scent.
When we look at communication, words are the tip of the iceberg. Underneath the words are the physical, emotional and energetic realms.
Your success in business and love has much more to do with the underlying layers of communication than the words you use!
In my invisible Influence Course, I talk about the 8 Invisible Influencers that, when practiced, change how people respond to you in powerful ways. In today’s Man Alive podcast I dove into one of these Influencers — one skill that will help you build more trust, respect, and even attraction. I have seen many men who are high performers in their careers, and who women like and want, use this skill. It may surprise you in its simplicity.
In this episode I covered:
- What happens for a woman when she becomes aware of you
- The 3 shifts you can make right now that will make your actions more powerful
- The invisible influence you naturally have and whether you’re using or wasting it
- The overlap between success in business and love
- How to have a more powerful impact on women and colleagues, before you say a word
I haven’t done a solo episode in a long time so I’d love to know what you think about this format. Simply reply to this email to let me know what you gained from hearing this episode!
Even men at the top of their game find themselves wanting more from life. Man Alive is the resource for men who want more meaning, a bigger impact, unshakable confidence, a hotter sex life, more money, deeper love, solid friendships or a powerful legacy.
A version of this post was originally posted on ShanaJamesCoaching.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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