The emotional weight you’ve been carrying around all this time has finally become unbearable. You’ve reached the edge and it feels like life’s backed you into a corner from which there seems to be no escaping. Deep inside you practically hear your soul scream, “You’re better than this! What the hell are you doing with your life?! Come on!”
Welcome to the pivot-point. You’ve arrived at yet another grand juncture and possibly one of the most powerful moments of truth in your life. You’re realizing that complaining about your life without doing anything about it to change is pointless and now the pity party has officially worn out its welcome.
The truth can be a tough pill to swallow, but like you’ve recently experienced, the truth is impossible to ignore unless you’re cool settling for chronic symptoms of regret instead. But don’t worry kids. The SoulTrekker isn’t here to abandon you hopelessly hanging out on your last leg down at wit’s end. Nope, I’ve arrived jam packed with soul-full soul-lutions and soliloquies to turn around those depressing breakdowns you experience and transform them into incredible break-THROUGHS.
If you don’t know how to love yourself, you will never understand your value, and if you can’t comprehend your own value than it’s damn near impossible to ever believe you are worthy or deserving of receiving whatever bountiful abundance life decides to toss your way.
You’ve locked yourself away in a self-created false identity of being unlovable, undeserving, and worthless, and now the walls of your heart have become so impenetrably thick that you’ve subconsciously morphed yourself into some type of powerful deflector shield highly proficient in blocking, sabotaging and rejecting anything potentially offering the true, authentic happiness you’ve always wanted.
My hope is that in writing this, one day, like me, you may grow tired of all the self-chastising hate, punishment, and self-abuse you’ve inflicted on yourself, and that one day you too may reach the tipping point in becoming so incredibly sick of all the bullshit stories, lies, and excuses you tell yourself holding you back. And my hope is that right then and there you will decide to change your life and embark on one of the most radically impactful missions in your life:
A mission to consciously stop choosing to settle for anything acknowledging you as less than you truly are and hereby permanently discarding every self-destructive identity you’ve created.
You did not come here to play it small. You came here to experience greatness. Oftentimes, the main reason you feel like you don’t belong in this world is that your primary purpose on the planet is helping dismantle the old, outdated paradigms and joining together in creating new ones.
You are a preordained light who has precisely arrived during these times to participate in the powerful role of badass creator and shine brightly to serve as an example to shift and empower others.
You were not only put here to experience love, but to step up and join the ranks in serving alongside other fellow change-makers and contribute unique gifts to the collective in a way that no one else but you can. Maybe you offer the gift of sound and music, or it’s art, writing, dancing, healing, and coaching, or just maybe what you offer is some medium of exchange that has previously never been unleashed into the world before.
I get why you’re stalling, and understand the hesitation, I really do. You think you are afraid of the unknown, but in fact, you’re afraid that the expectations you’ve held onto for so long about the way you believed life was supposed to be is actually coming to an end.
You are a bright light so be like the sun…
The sun doesn’t care if it blinds you. Gather your courage and start trusting that incessant, intuitive nudge you keep feeling from deep inside your soul. Have a little faith it isn’t nudging you towards destruction, mistakes, failure, and regret, but towards the new chapter of your story where you feel empowered and choose to leave everything behind you that dims your fucking shine.
So cut the crap and stop downplaying yourself, settling for less than you deserve. The only reason you believe you can’t shine now is because you’ve sold yourself some lies and allowed fear, doubt and disbelief to overwhelm, take you over and hold you back.
Making bold moves to follow your heart’s lead requires insurmountable courage and an amount of guts most folks just don’t have, and when it all comes down to game time, to actually go hard or go home, follow your bliss and never look back. The truth is most people will chicken out.
I know this particular process all too well. I’ve done it. I talk the talk and walk the walk. I’m living truth and I’ve got the postcards to show it. Acknowledging my own self-worth and facing my fears was the best decision I’ve ever made and it positively altered my life in exciting new ways I previously thought inconceivable.
Stop fighting with life and let it do its thing. Allow life to cut you open wide and bleed out all the self-limitation and all the other false core beliefs that hold you back. You are the only who decides when you will stop living in resistance, and what’s the hold up anyways? Are you wishing upon star for some magical occasion when the timing feels perfectly right before you take the plunge?Well then I hate to tell you that you will quite literally be waiting forever and you will never feel more ready than you already do now.
There are no rules and no time limits…
I hear it all the time. Many of you believe now it’s too late to go after what lights you up, but don’t let the mind trick you. It’s never really too late. I mean I get it, maybe in the linear sense, five, ten, twenty years ago life seemed more ideal to answer your calling and begin passionately pursuing the life of your dreams, but guess when the second best time is for taking action and manifesting your dreams is? You guessed it..RIGHT NOW.
The only thing holding you back is the self-chastising stories you tell yourself about why you can’t have the life you want. Divorce your story and marry your dreams, and for godsakes man, forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it. You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress at the same damn time.
Self-love is an inward journey of acceptance, not perfection. Nobody’s perfect so acknowledge your gifts and quit beating yourself up. Your heart is huge, your intentions are pure and you have a compassionate soul, so why keep selling yourself on a lie that you don’t deserve the abundance life has to offer? And now that you’ve caught the drift of what can advance your soul’s expansion, go out and start claiming the blessings that are rightfully yours. Living is giving and there’s more than enough abundance to share ten times over with everyone.
The pity party’s over. Turn the chapter on your old story of “I Am a Victim” and write a new story with an entirely different title called: “Empowerment.”
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