Fear! It can be both useful and draining. Designed for the self-protection of humans, fear tells us to think twice before switching jobs, joining our lives together with someone permanently, or starting a family.
Fear can stop us from making a hasty decision or keep us tied to the fence, where we won’t do anything at all.
While its biological imperative is well-placed, sometimes fear, or anxiety can cripple us from making decisions — good, bad, or any at all. The following three steps can help guys shift from fear to freedom by using anxiety to make better decisions.
When you become more informed and prepared, you arm yourself with solutions to solve your problems. Guys are often afraid of taking risks or approaching a problem because they do not know enough about the set of circumstances.
Sometimes, men might allow ego to simultaneously keep them from knowledge and make them anxious to ask for help. It’s okay to admit that you don’t know something.
Start by overcoming and bridging the gap through learning to get to your result. Always look forward to studying and learning more to better address your problems.
This might mean studying yourself or those around you more, learning more about retirement or insurance plans, or how to plan a trip for your significant other.
Don’t pretend to know something to save face as it slows down your process of learning. Use the fear of not knowing to motivate you to learn, engage, and reflect more to make better decisions.
(2) Focus on what matters.
Prioritizing is key to overcoming fear. Perhaps, you are unsure about which move to make next — this is because you have not developed your focus.
Did you set a goal or priority to do one thing despite its inconsistency with your desire?
Maybe, this isn’t your goal or shouldn’t shape your focus, or perhaps shouldn’t be a priority now. Focus on what matters and prioritize the most important to ensure that each successive decision you make will align with your priority.
Fear makes you create obligations that are not consistent with your priority. The fear of exclusion, disappointing others, or the fear of losing your reputation might shift your priority.
In the end, you recognize that it does not propel you forward or help you accomplish your goal. The reason that there may be a conflict with your intended decision is because fear made you put someone else’s priority before your own priority.
Your true reason is trying to convince you to refocus and choose your own path.
If you are at a crossroads, consider this exercise. If I could only focus on one or two things in the time I have, or space I have in my life, I have to do X. In this respect, you can use fear to prioritize and crystallize focus.
This can be great for guys who have been accused of having a one-track mind. In this sense, focusing on the priority will make you better equipped to live consistently with your life in focus and your priority – your chief goal.
(3) Allow discomfort to increase your awareness and form habits.
Fear can make you uncomfortable. When something reminds you that you don’t know enough or not focused, it can feel discouraging. You might not want to hear it, but it’s that very discomfort that will evolve your awareness.
When you have self-awareness and knowledge, you are primed to make better decisions. Why? Well, you are not just evaluating your past reactions and develop habits to increase future insights, but you create models through introspection that predict how to engage, what to expect, and when you should move forward.
Developing an underlying understanding or an instinct for things you formally had no idea about is crucial. It is only by embracing fear that can allow you to embark on that journey.
You can make better decisions by making automatic decisions and having a responsive framework to evaluate situations that are in alignment with your priorities.
If you regularly engage in an act or set of circumstances, it behooves you to make it a habit to not engage in withering down your willpower. The depletion of willpower spends essential focus and attention that can be used for other circumstances.
Using fear to inform yourself, focus, and sit with discomfort is challenging, but it can help you make better decisions by being consistent with your priority and vision for your life.