We are meant to share our pain.
We might even venture that if we don’t look at our pain honestly and we don’t share the twinges and scars of our heart that we are being selfish.
When you frame pain this way, it feels like there is a bigger purpose for it. It takes you out of a victim mentality.
It does make you a warrior. But not THE warrior. Because as joy links us, so, too, does pain. We are all warriors of life.
In this grand scheme, I am learning it is not about immediate relationships. It is about what you do for others and then understanding and having the faith and trust you will be taken care of.
To illustrate. If I help someone for nothing, then I am not out energy, time, money, effort, etc. Instead, I know, without question, my needs will be fulfilled. Because we are not destined to live in pairs, in small groups even. My needs will not be fulfilled by the person who has nothing to give, but by someone who is in my circle and has a blessing to share. I might have no idea where it comes from.
But we unleash the power of this place we call home and into the beyond when we leverage the gifts we all share.
Often, if I consider working harder and doing a task myself, but then I give it away, I will look in my email, DM, text, or wherever and find I have two blessings waiting for me.
They make up for my time and money and energy and so forth.
Pain is the same way. Do I experience it for me, for you, for everyone?
Do you go through your trials for the same reason you share your bounty?
Then doesn’t it make sense to choose the level of your personal pain as you use your afflictions to help other people heal? Minimize your physical pain as much as you can as you draw in others to share your lessons from it.
Pain and joy and struggle and disease and doubt and every damn emotion or experience are to be shared for you to fit into the link of the chain of humanity.
Realizing the depth of our responsibility to others has been the overarching message I have received this week, and I just wanted to share it with you today.
Be well. Help. Love. Respond. Believe you are loved. Even if this is the most difficult task for you to do. Believe you matter. Your pain is felt as deeply as your joy. Accept what people want to send to your heart.
Return it.
This is the true meaning of heartbeat.
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