Drop the Screens, Be Present
In this day in age, asking someone to put down their phone is equivalent to asking someone to just cut off a limb. It’s pretty much impossible. Even though the experts tell us that thirty minutes to an hour a day away from our phones will do leaps and bounds for our mental health and even the folks over at Google have an unplugged day for themselves at least once a week, we still don’t listen.
These kinds of breaks are even more important when we’re in a serious relationship. Even if you’re one of those people who put their phone face down on the table, that’s still not good enough. Get your phones, put them somewhere that you can’t get too easily – even leave them at home once in a while, I know, crazy, right? – after that spend some true quality time with your significant other. If you’re spending more time in front of a screen than with your partner, something is wrong.
Let’s Get Physically Affectionate
This might sound easy but often it’s the easiest things that people will overlook quickest. Simply by physically touching our partner we can increase the good feelings and release oxytocin. This is what’s known as the “love hormone” and it’s a sure way to increase intimacy in a relationship. In fact, oxytocin is a key component in social bonding and is something that all humans need in order to feel connected. Clearly, a fundamental to create intimacy relies solely on the human touch. The kind of touch we’re talking about isn’t restricted to just sex either. Small gestures like hugs or patronizing pats on the headcount, too.
Sometimes, in relationships, we can start to tense up. It can happen for a variety of reasons, but the common end result is that we can start to feel alienated and as if we’re no longer a viable part of our relationship. After that, it’s only a matter of time before we feel uncomfortable or out of place while in the company our partner. How do we get back to a place where we feel comfortable with our significant other. For some people using CBD might be the answer.
CBD has been widely lauded for its abilities to alleviate anxiety and stress. If it can work on those suffering from chronic anxiety it can definitely work to ease tensions in a relationship. Perhaps you and your partner could try using CBD together. Unlike alcohol or mind-altering substances, it doesn’t leave you foggy-headed but rather in a position where you’re open and ready to discuss your relationship. It might be the breakthrough you need.
Find Your Common Ground
In order to maintain a long-lasting relationship, it’s clear that relying entirely on physical attraction may be a dead end. While looks don’t always fade and sexual passions sometimes stay high, really, you’d hope for something deeper in your time together than just the inability to keep your hands off one another. That’s where common interests become so important. It might be something as simple as enjoying a walk to the coffee shop together in the mornings, or as intense as a tandem bungee jump but the key is doing it together. Spending quality time enjoying an activity and bonding through it is what separates the superficial and fleeting, from the serious and enduring.
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