Our marriage is still wonderful even after all the ups and downs; and here is why. I make his evenings a much-awaited affair, making him glad to come home and he, in turn, gives me reasons for not letting him leave every morning. Yes, we are head-over-heels in love with each other and our love only strengthens with each passing day.
I’m sure all of you would want to know how we manage to keep it so fresh and full of passion even after years of marriage. It’s simple; we just never let the ‘marriage-pressure’ come in the way of our relationship. My husband and I decided to carry the healthy habits of our dating time into our married life and the result, as I told you, “We are truly, madly, and deeply in love—even at age 50.”
I have listed some of our relationship habits below; don’t shy away from adding your own habits to keep the spark alive.
· Love The Little Things
“I remember how your eyes gleamed every time I tucked that hair strand behind my ear. Now that we are married, I can’t see that shine anymore.”
Most couples after marriage tend to take their partners for granted and ignore the small gestures that made them fall in love at the first place. Notice the little things to keep the fire burning between the two of you.
· Appreciate The Efforts
“I remember how you appreciated my cooking. Don’t you like it anymore?”
Don’t take your partner for granted just because they are all yours now. Appreciate every effort that they put for you. Be it the bed tea that you get or the surprising candle-light setting, don’t forget to tell your partner how blessed you feel to have them in your life.
· Ignore The Flaws
“I remember how you never reacted on my irritating photo obsession. What went wrong now?”
Most married people complain that the things their partners loved in them before suddenly turn into an irritating habit once they tie the knot. Love them for the way they are. Don’t get fired up at their flaws, keep a check on your temper to maintain healthy and long-term relation. Always remember that to err is human, to forgive is divine and to ignore is mental bliss
· Give Surprises
“I remember how you surprised me with twenty-three gifts on my 23rd birthday. Where has that spark gone now?”
Who doesn’t like receiving surprises? Surprise your spouse to keep the spark alive between the two of you. Be it a body-massage after a tiring day or surprise dinner date at your favorite restaurant, you won’t believe the magic it can create in your relation. Don’t get all mundane just cause you don’t have to woo her anymore, spice up your relation with these little surprises.
· Show Some PDA
“I remember how we kissed every time we went home. I miss those warm kisses now.”
Most couples tend to become dull and boring once they get married. Just because you share the same room and all your time together doesn’t mean you can’t show some love- signs in public. Hold their hand, hug them occasionally and a small peck on the cheek would not disturb the public; keep them close by your side wherever you go. A little public display of affection is a real turn on; it will keep the fire inside the both of you burning for forever.
· Go Out For Movies/Dates
“I remember how you kissed me on our first movie together. We should do the movie thing more often.”
Most couples, during their dating phase, feel that going out for movies is the best way to spend time together. Go out for movies at least once in a month to keep the fun element in your life. Don’t sit back and become the lousy couple, go out on dates, plan your day and spend it romantically with the love of your life.
· Respect Each Other’s Freedom
“I remember how you were okay with me staying late at my friend’s house. I wish you were that understanding even now.”
Just because you are married now, it doesn’t mean that you can act all possessive about your partner. Respect their freedom, give them their space and expect the same from them. For a marriage to not hit the rocks, it is important that you do not poke nose in every business that you partner undertake; trust them and they will let you know when the time is right.
I learned a lot from these practices. Borrowing these things from my relationship and reliving them after we took our vows helped us a lot in maintaining a healthy relationship after marriage. I’m sure these would work wonders in your marriage too.
Most couples after marriage tend to take their partners for granted and ignore the small gestures that made them fall in love at the first place. Don’t take your partner for granted just because they are all yours now. Appreciate every effort that they make for you. Most married people complain that the things their partners loved in them before saying “I do” suddenly turn into an irritating habit once they tie the knot. Love them for the way they are. Most couples tend to become dull and boring once they get married. Just because you share the same room and all your time together doesn’t mean you can’t show some love-signs in public. Just because you are married now, it doesn’t mean that you can act all possessive about your partner.
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