Can you guess how many couples fail to consummate their marriage on their wedding night?
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According to a survey reported in this article on news.com.au more than half of couples (52%) fail to consummate their marriage on their wedding night.
The survey, commissioned by Voucher Codes Pro, uncovered the top ten reasons newlyweds don’t do the deed on their big day:
1. The groom was too drunk (24 per cent)
2. The bride was too tired and fell asleep (16 per cent)
3. The bride was too drunk (13 per cent)
4. Had to look after our children (11 per cent)
5. We had an argument before wedding reception ended (9 per cent)
6. Needed to leave for our honeymoon (9 per cent)
7. Stayed up all night partying/celebrating with guests (7 per cent)
8. The groom was too tired and fell asleep (4 per cent)
9. Neither of us felt like having sex (4 per cent)
10. Other (3 per cent)
52%! Is anyone else surprised by this number? And how interesting that it’s the grooms who are largely responsible for the lack of wedding night action. I mean, I know wedding night sex doesn’t necessarily have the same connotations that it did in the past, but it’s still an important part of the day. Isn’t it?
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It was a few years ago now, but I distinctly remember my husband and I consummating our marriage twice after our wedding reception.The first time was not long after we’d collapsed onto the king size hotel bed, my hair half full of bobby pins I’d given up trying to pull out. The second was after we’d wolfed down some room service at 2am, realising we’d hardly eaten anything all day.
It wasn’t earth shattering sex. There weren’t any candles or rose petals. No Barry White. We were both exhausted and tipsy, our throats hoarse from talking and our cheeks sore from smiling. My feet were in agony thanks to my too-high bridal shoes and there was a welt on the back of my neck from where my dress had pinched all day. Not earth shattering in the slightest. But it was gentle and loving and fun.
We talked and laughed, debriefing the ceremony and the reception and giggling about all of the funny little things that had gone wrong. And all of the wonderful things that had been just right. And afterwards, we held one another, husband and wife in the quiet dark. The perfect ending to a perfect day. And the beginning of our new life.
Did you consummate your marriage on your wedding night? If not, why not?
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What’s the big deal? They will have another day to have sex. I’d rather dance and enjoy the entire day and night and have sex the day after or wait til the honeymoon. Why not? There is to much emphasis on sex that must be done at a particular time
Yes, we did it that first night, after the ceremony.
It was our first time together.
I remember it being good, and it has continued to be good.
For me, the night after a big party (any big party) is not a great moment for sex (unless it involves finding a way to sneak aside to have sex *during* the party, but that’s hardly going to work at your owm wedding party). There’s so many other nights, so why insist there has to be sex on that particular night, with so much else going on?
We did. By the time we got to our honeymoon destination it was very late and we were so tired, and it was all we could do to get in the door. But it was important to both of us to “seal the deal”, so to speak. I’m not surprised to hear how many couples don’t, though. Most weddings (especially large ones) are exhausting, physically and emotionally, and that exhaustion is exacerbated if the couple is travelling to their honeymoon directly after the wedding.
Not for most people, Tom. Indeed 🙂
These are not new stats … I heard this long ago. Now-a-days where people are commonly in the sack before they get married, why would it be different now? It’s not like it’s their first time, ya know?
I got the other one, The build up to the big day and excitement altered the timing of her period……..and she flowed like a river……..normally that just meant use a towel, but in a nice hotel staining the sheets and towels could be pricey……..a couple of days later was fine. We’d been active for a couple of years by that time so no biggie.
@Trey! Yes -I wondered why that one wasn’t actually listed! I imagine it happens quite regularly 🙂
Because it’s for some reason seen as embarrassing…..or more than most of the other reasons.
And how interesting that it’s the grooms who are largely responsible for the lack of wedding night action. I mean, I know wedding night sex doesn’t necessarily have the same connotations that it did in the past, but it’s still an important part of the day. Isn’t it? I think you need to elaborate on this. The only points I see that are gender specific are “too drunk” and “too tired”, which for the groom sums up 24+4=28%, and for the bride 13+16=29%. Hardly enough to point out either one as “largely responsible” in my book. Or who do you… Read more »
Doesn’t it play better–against stereotypes–to blame the man?
Hi Lady Chatterley
I am not at all surprised, unless they both were virgins 🙂
Most of us have our wedding night long before we marry.
Very true, Iben 🙂
Indeed. The idea of “consummating the marriage” is a faint echo from a distant past.