TW for child molestation.
Eric Bodenweiser, Republican candidate for the Delaware State Senate and member of the Delaware Family Policy Council, was arrested for allegedly having unlawful sex acts with a 13-year-old boy.
Anti-sex ideas don’t work. We have tried the “shame people for having sex that we don’t like and then there won’t be rape!” tactic again and again and again. It does not fucking work. Homophobia, sex-negativity, slut-shaming… we’ve tried it. And time after time the very perpetrators of those beliefs end up being the rapists and abusers, and the shame around sexuality hurts the very survivors they say they’re going to protect. The only thing that will reduce the rate of rape is developing a consent culture. A culture in which boundaries are always respected, in which consent matters both inside and outside of the bedroom, in which “no” is a complete sentence.
Without excusing Mr. Bodenweiser’s heinous acts, they are the natural outcome of his attraction to men and his beliefs about homosexuality. After all, if gay men are sick and evil, if many of them molest children, if the very act of being attracted to people of the same gender is something God loathes and a sign that you were damaged… if you believe you’re evil already, you might end up molesting a thirteen-year-old. After all, you already risk being an outcast in your community and separated from your God if you act upon your desires. It’s not like molesting children makes it any worse… and the kid might not speak up.
It’s horrible. I do not condone it. And the rape culture here is something I intend to fight.