Like some of the rest of us I’ve been up to my neck in other stuff. But over at my blog I recently posted about three items that in retrospect are pretty related. Here’s the first.
One was about the semi-moronic but quite popular “Hot Chicks With Douchebags” website, which is basically just a compendium of pictures of women the (male) author and (almost all male) contributors think look attractive next to men the author and contributors think look ugly, stupid, undeserving, unworthy, or otherwise not to their liking.
Doesn’t it seem like the website Hot Chicks with Douchebags is both a refutation of huge chunks of the “hypergamy” meme and a pretty big hint as to whether the (mostly male) notion is descriptive or prescriptive.
Because who, exactly, is registering disapproval of the gentlemen depicted? More to the point, who’s registering disapproval of the choice of the women who seem attracted to the gentlemen in question?
Sort of by-definition it isn’t the women themselves.
Chances are at least above average that it’s not other women.
The website’s author is a man, as are virtually all commenters.
You know what’s really interesting about the comments from women over at my place?
It’s mostly “um, the men all look pretty normal to me.”
From the pictures here, and looking at another handful from the sight, I’m really confused about this guy’s definition of “douchebag.” It seems to mean “Man I don’t particularly like the look of who’s standing with a girl I do like the look of.” I see attractive guys, unattractive guys (though not actually that many… most are average-to-cute), rich-looking guys, poor-looking guys, geeky-looking guys, jocky-looking guys… I’m wondering if there are any men not personal friends of the site’s owner who wouldn’t automatically become “douchebags” when paired with a hot girl.
I think that’s about right. Why, exactly, are we leaving it up to straight men to arbitrate what, exactly, should constitute male attractiveness for women? Especially when it looks like, you know, our objections to the looks of straight men we’re not attracted to doesn’t really seem to be a problem for straight women. Who, presumably, we’d all like to be attracted to us.
Personally I’d just be relieved I wouldn’t have to dress like Mystery after all. 🙂