According to a 2011 study by the Families and Work Institute, 60% of American men in dual-earner families report conflict between their work and their home life, while only 47% of women do.
Why? Men are more invested in the Success Myth than women; they are more likely to believe that their worth is based on their career success and their ability to be a provider. On the other hand, men are more committed than previous generations of men were to being involved fathers and don’t want to be the stereotypical distant dad. Unfortunately, torn between these two roles, they may end up stressed out and feel like they’re not able to do either as well as they could have. In addition, the stress of the economic crisis and economic trends even before the crisis (such as decreased job security and increased earnings) make work more time-consuming and difficult for men, who are still more likely to be the primary wage-earner, which increases the amount of stress that men are under.
It is time for American workplaces and those around the globe to institute family-friendly policies: paid maternity and paternity leave, on-site child care, flextime, an openness to part-time work or working from home for people who want to spend time with their children. Most of American couples are dual-earner couples; it’s about time that we acknowledge that reality instead of setting up the entire economy as if everyone, male and female, has a wife at home to pick up the kids from school and do the laundry. This is not just a female issue– this is an issue for everyone that wants to have children someday.