This AlterNet article got me thinking about reproductive rights. Often, when we talk about reproductive rights, we talk only about how reproductive rights affect cis women. The ability of cis women to decide whether or not to have a child and to control their own uteruses. The availability of birth control as healthcare to treat everything from polycystic ovary syndrome to heavy periods to (yes) being sexually active and not wanting a child. The cis women who are mothers, get pregnant, and realize they cannot have another child
However, there’s a missing narrative in this discussion. The experiences of trans people (many of whom have uteruses and would like to control them) are, of course, erased. But so are the experiences of cis men. There are cis men right now– in fact, approximately one-third of men– who would be fathers or have more children if it weren’t for abortion. There are cis men right now who have enjoyed a more pleasurable sex life because their partner could be on birth control. There are cis men who got to go to college or get a career that they wouldn’t have been able to otherwise, who didn’t have to be involved with a woman who wasn’t right for them to do right by their kids, who became better fathers to their children– all because of the reproductive rights of people with uteruses.
So this is an Open Thread for talking about those erased experiences.
Commenting Note: Cis men and trans people of all genders are encouraged to share how birth control and abortion have helped them. Cis women may share the experiences of cis men or trans people that they know. Unhappy stories (i.e. “my partner didn’t have an abortion and now I’m a dad and don’t want to be,” “my partner had an abortion and I wanted the kid,” etc.), while important, are off-topic for this thread, as is debate about whether abortion should be legal. Let’s try to keep it happy.