Thanksgiving: a time to gather with people you love, and try to remember why.
As we gather with our families around tables groaning with food, we’re going to hear things that would have sounded retrograde in the 50s, and as we enact cultural rituals, we’re going to see roles played out that would make Victorians facepalm.
So, what’s the most impressive bit of Thanksgiving gender enforcement you’ve seen this year? Twenty people in the house, ten women in the kitchen and ten men watching a football game? Your grandma insisting that in her day the sissy-boys were quiet and polite, not like today? Your little cousin being shooed out of the kitchen because cooking isn’t for boys? A long debate over dessert about how lesbian marriage is hot but gay marriage is totally queer?
I’m just making these up from stuff I’ve heard; I’m spending today with a girlfriend, a wolf, and a dense, complicated German dish. Seeing the surviving portions of my family tomorrow. I’m sure people’s real experiences can top these hypotheticals.
Alternately, what pleasant gender surprises have you encountered this year? Grandpa understands trans issues on the first pass? Mixed-gender touch football on the lawn? Gay uncles and fundamentalist aunts getting along great?