The way your son dresses may be all over the place. As a young man, he may be going through some things.
That’s why as a father, sitting down with him and helping him find clothes that express who he is a great feat. Not only will the two of you get closer, but he’ll be exactly who he was meant to be.
We talked about how you can do this in 6 easy steps. Read ahead.
Does It Reflect His Personality?
Even if he looks good in what he wears, they may be making him very uncomfortable. They don’t reflect who he is on the inside.
How do you make sure of this? By having a one on one conversation of-course. The two of you can make note of the type of things that reflect his personality the most. You can go through his closet and find something to work off of. In no time, it’ll be full of things he enjoys.
Does He Have A Vision?
The fact that he knows what would make him the most comfortable is superb. However, he may not have a vision on how to pull them off. No need to fear, the internet is here. You can run through fashion guides (such as through Pinterest), and find pictures of people that dress like he wants to. By studying up on what they’re doing, he can emulate them.
You don’t just have to use the internet for this. He’ll get a better learning experience by making note of people in real life.
Why not a day at the mall? Or maybe some coffee? The two of you can have fun, and he’ll snag some pointers.
Is He Confident?
Now that you’ve helped him find clothes that represents him, it’s time for him to take them on a spin. This may be easier said than done. He’s used to dressing one way, so going out in public looking different may not be something he’s ready for.
This is especially true if his new-found fashion sense is more peculiar. This is where you come in. You’ll lift him up, helping him know that being himself is what matters.
Even if he doesn’t dress more out-there, making sure that he’s comfortable would help him sell the garment. Everyone knows he looks good, but he’s too in-his-head about it.
Is He Accessorized?
Something many guys ignore when planning their outfits is accessories. They come in all shapes and sizes, so they work for various kinds of outfits.
What’s the best, though? Easily a watch. There are so many names in the watch game. Your son would be able to find timepieces that are hyper-masculine, yet elegant at the same time. Depending on the country you purchase from, its look, feel, and touch would change too. Have you ever seen Devon’s pieces before? They look like they’re from outer space.
If not for watches, bracelets work well too. They generally tend to be more feminine. They can spice what he’s wearing up. They’re perfect if your son is going for a more gender-fluid look.
Is It Gender Fluid Enough?
Speaking of being gender fluid, maybe that’s who he is? You speaking to him made him realize that he likes dressing more feminine than masculine at times. He has no specific style, but he wishes to rotate between the spectrum.
You should make him comfortable enough to switch between the two whenever he wants. It’s quite the change. However, it’ll let him be the most comfortable in his skin. How often he switches depends on how he’s feeling, so don’t question it.
Don’t Rush It
It’s great that you’re helping him find his sense of style, but it’s not something that can be done overnight. He may say he likes X,Y, and Z. That being said, when he tries them out, he’ll realize that it wasn’t them that he liked.
It’s natural to undergo trial and error to find what suits you the best. By being patient with him, he’ll be comfortable enough to explore what he likes.
When it comes to helping young men dress, there are so many things that you could do. But there are even more that’ll help you figure his fashion sense out, and find clothes for it.
In terms of what will get the job done, it’s time. You’ll be able to speak to each other and thoroughly find what exactly he’s going for. With more time taken, the more thorough you can nail his vision. This is especially true if he’s struggling with the thought of being gender-fluid.
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