I have more degrees and careers than you can count on both hands. From journalist to bio-medic, to environmental lawyer and Professor of Chinese Medicine, I have used my passion in the areas of health and the natural environment to make a difference in my home country of Brazil and abroad.
But my most profound lesson about our ability to inspire a greater world came from my young son, Marcio Jnr., who was born with a rare disorder called G6PD – a condition that makes him severely allergic to all regular medication as well as certain foods and chemicals.
In the beginning, I confess it was scary. I’d learned so many fixed perspectives about disease and western medication from my studies and career that made me view his condition as a problem that desperately needed a cure.
My natural curiosity helped me to eventually step back and look at my son’s condition differently. Once I began looking at my son and what he was actually choosing to be in the world, I realized he didn’t need to be “cured” or healed. At the age of 3 years old, he already had his voice in the world, and would not ingest anything that would cause him harm.
I realized that ending the judgment and acknowledging that my son just had a different way of being in the world, this was an essential life lesson as I discovered. It is possible to be totally different, happy, and healthy. What if your weakness is actually your greatest strength and this can be an inspiration for others, too?
Five things my son’s difference taught me:
Stop judging you.
We all believe we have weaknesses and inabilities. Those are the things we tend to get angry, upset, or depressed about. It’s time to stop judging those things and take another look. If you weren’t judging them as a problem, weakness, or limitation, what strength could it be?
Don’t heed the judgments of others.
We stop being ourselves when we listen to the judgments of others. When we get caught up in the thoughts and opinions of others, we stop being ourselves and start to be moulded by of all of this external stuff that isn’t relevant.
If it is right, it will feel light!
Feeling ‘Light and heavy’ are another way of listening with your innate senses. When something is true for you, it usually creates a sensation of lightness, spaciousness, peace, relaxation, happiness, or calm in your attitude or body. If something you think or say, or what someone else thinks or says feels heavy, contractive, or even irritating, that’s your instinct telling you something isn’t quite right or correct. Follow what feels light!
Bring all of you to the table, not just the “acceptable” or “good” parts.
It’s our unique voice that is our greatest strength in the world.
Create a kinder world.
When you don’t judge anything or anyone, (including you), you create a kinder world – one that is more inclusive and contributive, dissipating separation and barriers. Being kind to you and letting all of you come out to play in the world is probably the most dynamic way you can create a kinder world.
Ultimately my son showed me being different is actually actually a strength! Without judgment, there is a world of possibilities available. We can altogether inspire and create a better world for everyone, all we have to do is choose it.
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