..and a nice long hands holding walk…then find a nice quiet place to *cough* talk
The Brown Eyed Girl
After reading this you may say, “J.R. this sounds kind of familiar.” It’s not. Trust me. Each lady is unique and special in her own right. Every woman that I date or have any kind of feelings for, helps shape me into the person I am and the person I will become. I’m not on a quest for “The One”, but if she comes along at some point, I’m not going to object.
As we go through life, relationships start and relationships end. No matter how bad things may become at the end, there is always something positive you can take from it. I know this because I’m old enough and I’ve been doing this long enough. I’m just sayin…
[Buffalo, NY. Present day]
It started innocently enough. She and I had mutual Twitter followers and she saw a tweet I had on someone’s timeline and obviously thought it was off the hook. It probably was. She started following me and in turn I started following her.
I saw her tweets and laughed. She saw some of mine and laughed. At one point there was a direct message (DM) sent. That much I’m sure of. She says she sent it and I have no reason to doubt her. Therefore, the official story is that SHE sent the initial DM.
We traded a few mildly flirty tweets back and forth. Nothing more than PG. There were also a couple DMs that went back and forth, but again, nothing in the NC-17 range. At least not at first. It was good clean fun. And boy was it fun!
Her Twitter avatar was cute but kind of small, and I asked if she could e-mail me a couple pictures. She did and they were a solid G rating. Very cute, but nothing you would be afraid to show your grandma or the minister up the street. I believe the word “yowza” was tossed out there, but I won’t admit to that. Not yet anyway.
It was a cool Saturday night in the B-Lo (Buffalo, NY) and I was kickin it on the couch with Drama Queen. I told her we would sit and watch a movie and she was pleased. We dug through the crappy selection in pay-per-view and she couldn’t find anything to watch.
I started digging through the DVD selection and she was like a parrot, squawking “No” every time I mentioned something. She had an interest in watching Seven, but we were halfway through “Greed” when she got bored (not freaked out. Bored) and wanted to watch something else.
Back through the DVDs and again is was a huge no-fest. I finally said, “You’ve never seen Tommy Boy, so we’re gonna watch that.” She sighed, said, “Whatever”, and I popped it in the DVD player.
She laughed throughout the movie, but at the end when I asked her how she liked it, she said, “It was OK.” Seriously. I don’t get 13-year-old girls. She laughs her ass off at lame shit on Youtube and Disney Channel, but the magic of Chris Farley & Davis Spade is, “just OK”? Geez…..
About halfway through the movie The Brown-Eyed Girl and I started DM’ing. I do remember it was I that started it this time and we kept up the DMs until shortly after the movie was over.
The flirting was getting a bit heavier, but still nothing too severe. At one point I threw down my digits and suggested we text since there were more characters per message than Twitter. We texted throughout the night, laughing about stupid shit and having a good time.
She later told me she was shy at first and that I “knocked it outta her”. I don’t ever remember her being shy, but I guess I’ll take her word for it. I’m also not sure how I “knocked it outta her” since I’m in Buffalo and she’s, well, not.
This morning I asked her what she meant by “Knocked it outta her”, and she told me that I “encouraged her inner bad girl to come out.” That wasn’t my intention. I swear. I’m not complaining that it happened, but it wasn’t my game plan going in. I had no real game plan. I was just having fun.
She also told me that I’m “smooth”. For the record I am so NOT smooth, but I guess if she wants to believe it, who am I to stop her? God bless her for thinking that.
The bottom line? At 4:57 AM Eastern time I finally crashed into bed. I was thoroughly exhausted, but in a very good way. We said our good nights and it was lights out for daddy. I bet I was in bed less than 30 seconds when I fell asleep with some very, very good thoughts in my head.
J.R.
P.S. In regards to that first DM: Apparently I said something in the general Twitter stream and she DMd me saying I was a “Naughty daddy”. I will neither confirm nor deny that I am a naughty daddy. Instead, I will leave it up to you to decide.
I do believe it! Being an adult is hard sometimes and sometimes our adult friends can just be asshats, as some of these comments have shown. hehehehe
Hi! I have been a very, very infrequent reader of your blog, but today looking at my bookmarks, I thought, “hey I wonder how the blogmance (is that how you say it?) is going.” Well, I read what you said and understand what you said and then read this post, because it caused you to write an explanation post and yada, yada, yada, and phew! I am up to speed and I really have only one thing to say: This blog isn’t called Dodgeball and the Single Dad or Teddy Bear Picnic and the Single Dad it’s called SEX and… Read more »
Thanks Pam! You rock. The Blogger Hottie and I are on very good terms, believe it or not
oh…and 12 women in 8 years? A long string? Really? Maybe for Lisa, but with her charming personality, its no wonder.
It not a coincidence that the most verbose had no website they were willing to share. Just sayin..
I’ll shut up now.
Papa
Dude, you have an open invite to yak anytime! Did you notice that these women all made accusations and that I asked them to show me specific examples to back them up. I said I was willing to admit I was wrong if I truly was. Not so surprising that they didn’t respond.
Plus I thought my little disclaimer at the top was actually a nice thing to write. Whatever.
Once again, thanks for your support
Bro, I just stumbled across your blog today and from the looks of all of the attention this post got, you could use a testosterone wing-man. WTF?!?!? Why is everybody so bent out of shape over this? He flirted on Twitter….really?!?! Of all the things that you could get fired up about, this is what you go after? Last I checked there isn’t a .45 pointed at anyone’s head making them go to any particular blog.
Dude, I felt the need to say something…and for the record I think the dating application is hysterical! Keep doing what you’re doing.
Papa
OOPS – I should have said before that THIS Lisa is a different Lisa than the one who “choked” on your post. I can think of all sorts of better ways to choke.
Wow… skip the blog for a day and miss the DRAMA! I do agree that single moms are under pressure to be the great employee, Super Mom, and the perfect slut in bed (and look hot while doing ALL of it). And, maybe it is the pressure we put on ourselves as women, but I do believe there is a difference between how single moms and single dads are viewed. Maybe I’m just jealous because there is certainly NO ONE giving me kudos or even claiming that I “stepped up” to take my kids and raise them. But, like you,… Read more »
The post that really bugged me was the MILF post. I mean, obviously this is your blog, and you can write about whatever you want. It’s just that I liked the stuff you wrote about being a single parent so much that a post objectifying women like that made me sad. As for the boob stuff, it seemed to me like the breast cancer post was an excuse to post boob pics, but that’s just a personal interpretation. It’s definitely a strange approach to the subject matter, especially from a male POV. As for my defense of Jamie – I’ve… Read more »
I get your being bugged by the MILF post and I’m sorry it wasn’t your thing. Some enjoyed it and I guess others didn’t. My goal was not to objectify women at all. I think there is a bit of a double standard because I think a hot dads post would get no grief from anyone, but maybe I’m wrong. The reason to put the cleavage pictures in the post was a simple one. Most guys don’t give a shit about breast cancer until it involves someone close to them. It was a different approach to it, but was one… Read more »
First off, I am truly sorry about your kid’s dad. That really does suck. I hope they were old enough to at least have some good memories of him. I think I have a partial understanding of how you feel because my daughter’s mom wasn’t around at all for a full 4 years and the rest of the time is more out than in. It often feels like she doesn’t have a mom. Please tell me specifically what you think I say that is disrespectful towards women? Show me some examples and if I’m wrong I will admit it. The… Read more »
You’re right about the father of my children not being that great. But, he WAS great. Unfortunately, he died 🙁 And you’re also right about me being jealous. I feel very jealous that other children have fathers and mine do not. I feel sad for them every single day. You’re also right about me not having a personal blog – there’s enough weird, random crap on the Internet about my family already. No way I’d willingly open myself to that type of criticism, so kudos to you for that. I only wish that you would be more respectful in your… Read more »
I agree with Mely:
All the boob talk, semi-porno lady pics, and “hot mom” convo comes off as super misogynistic. Also, the “date application” shenanigan was exceptionally pathetic, especially given you’d just come out of a very public relationship.
Hopefully your daughter will never read any of this crap. Bet she’ll grow up before you do.
You are totally right. Fuck me for talking about breast cancer. Consider me the biggest cock in the world. How about if I give your e-mail address to the women that offered their pics for a cause? The date application was a joke, not a shenanigan. A lot of women thought was funny, butt they were obviously ones with a sense or humor. It was never intended to actually get a date. As far as my daughter growing up before me, I think that’s a really classy thing to say to a dad who took full custody of her when… Read more »
If I had not heard this story before I’d be totally smitten with this post right now. Unfortunately for you I am not. No wonder the sponsors aren’t rolling in. Perhaps they too are tired of the same old story. Boy follows girl. Boy tweets girl. Boy DMs girl. Boy texts girl. Boy blogs about girl. What’s next some cheesy YouTube dedications followed by a red carpet announcement of who your latest “brown eyed girl” is to ensure more readers and followers? Yawn. Just sayin. Also, jealousy did not drive me to write this comment. Your lack of respect did.… Read more »
Lack of respect the past few weeks? Can you please point to specific instances? I would love to see them. If I’ve been lacking in respect I will admit to it, but I need some examples first. I appreciate that you have you wing bitch’s back [BTW, “wingbitch” is her term, not mine. Don’t need people think I’m being disrespectful], but remember that SHE is the one who decided to end things and I did nothing but take the high road. I wrote a post about it being over and it was factual and said nothing but nice things about… Read more »
Someone sounds a little jealous…
As a single mom who HAS read a large portion of this blog, I just don’t see what the “issue” is. I mean, great guy, honest and funny, thinking those are great qualities 😉 Personally, I am gonna enjoy every minute I get to spend being your “conquest”
Papa. You da man. I appreciate your support and I’m sure THE Brown Eyed Girl does too. You can be my wing man anytime, bro
Thanks for the nice comment. This was written about my past Saturday night and if the texts I got this afternoon are any indication, I would expect a few more posts about The Brown Eyed Girl.
I have no problem with haters, I just hate the ones who can’t back up their hate with fact. Plus, I have a feeling she was coerced into doing it…
Okay WOW Lisa… Haha.. gotta say girl that was a little harsh.. J.R. is your typical loud mouth North-East coast boy.. *shrug* No harm no foul. JR We all got haters babes… You keep doing what you do.. and the women that are okay with it will be the ones that follow or reach out. Every pot has a lid darlin’. WookiesGirl Ps: You still talking to the chicky? If so then I’ll wait for another installment.. if not.. Then what was the point of the post? Just to get it out there? Me, being the hopeless romantic that I… Read more »
Dude, I gotta say. I nearly choked on this post. As a single parent myself, I’ve been following along with your, um, antics for a while now. I’ve mostly ignored the irritating things you’ve said here because some of what you have to say is entertaining and it’s interesting to see how single dads fare as opposed to what single moms go through. This time, you’ve outdone yourself — or possibly hit a new low, I’m not sure which. Do you actually listen to yourself? If so, then it’s clear you have very little self-respect and even less respect for… Read more »
Thanks for the lengthy and thorough comment. I read through it a couple times, went back and did some research and here is what i discovered: I’ve been a single dad for eight years. In this blog I mention 12 women that I have either dated, had a relationship with or simply flirted with. No one has a name, so others can’t know who they are. I would hardly consider 12 in eight years a “long string”. Especially since I didn’t even date all of them. My guess is that guys you’ve dated has dated many, many more women than… Read more »
I think I’ve seen this episode before. So when will you be mailing the stuff I left at your house back to me? Just curious.
– The other girl with brown eyes
are you missing someone????