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So, I’m a goal-setter. I love goals. I’m a bit of a professional “goal-setter,” if you will. My call in life is to call out and equip driven individuals to their full potential, creating systems of sustainability, expansion, and ultimately, flexibility.
Goals are nothing more than the results of properly executed habits.
As this week has rattled me to my core, I realize now more than ever that the number ONE priority of my life is…. me.
How I lead myself will determine how I lead my family.
How I lead myself will determine how I lead my clients.
How I lead myself will determine how I leave my legacy.
It starts and ends with me. Your life starts and ends with you.
It is up to us to create the HABITS that lead into HEALTHY and SUSTAINABLE LIVES of ABUNDANCE.
I am ultimately responsible for my priorities and how I show up in every area of my life.
As I’ve had my fiance on my mind today, here are 5 things I am COMMITTED to as DAILY HABITS to ensure the LONGEVITY, INTIMACY, and TRUST we both desire…and need.
1. LISTEN
I’m a great listener… At least, that’s what we tell ourselves as men. Truth is, we try to be great fixers. Rightfully so, we are called to “Protect, Provide, and Preside,” a badge of honor coined by Ryan Michler… but sometimes, for me, I am too busy contemplating how to FIX instead of simply listening… some conversations, situations, and stresses of life have no solution… they simply need to be heard. So I commit to listening to my partner more.
2. ENGAGE
Did I mention I am a talker? I LOVE to converse. And when my day is filled with others talking TO me, I easily find myself telling Kala all about MY day without engaging hers. Do I care? Absolutely! Do I intentionally ask about what she is up to as much as she does me. No. I don’t. So I commit to engaging my partner more frequently and intentionally.
3. INVOLVE
I like being right. Not that there is a “right” or “wrong,” but still…. I like being right and I like being in control. There are MORE TIMES THAN NOT that Kala can solve a self-perceived “issue” I am having, whatever it may be… Do I ask? No. I’m a man. We don’t ask. We solve. Last night, as I was digressing about some “issues,” which was really just misprioritization on my end, she had an immediate resolution and solution. I’m learning that the beauty of a TRUE partnership in life is just that… having a partner you can trust and share ownership/control with. So I commit to involving my partner more into the areas that I feel I must control.
4. DATE
Dude, 3 kids. Businesses. Life…. If you believe in “balance,” I have a bag of magic beans to sell you. There is no “balance,” only intentionality. There are a million excuses to let this slide, and I don’t want one of them. Being a blended family and a family with a special needs child, our kids all require attention in different ways. It’s easy for us to focus on kiddos and neglect our romance.. Maybe you can relate. As for me, I want to be intentional with my partner every day, every week, and every year of our lives. So I commit to dating my partner and keeping romance at the forefront of our life.
5. LEAD
As the king of my castle, I am called to lead my home. I am called to lead as a man: a partner, a father, a provider, a protector, and to preside over that which I’ve been entrusted. I’m to always have a plan for my family: Where I am leading us and how I am leading us there. My WHY is to always be understood by everyone in our home, so there is no confusion as to the intention or desired outcome of decisions made. So I commit to leading: myself, my family, my home, and those who look to me to lead.
These are my journaled thoughts of the day.
What are you committing to?
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