Before we get started let’s just say up front that there are exceptions to every rule. So, all of you haters just need to simmer down and know that these “5 Things Women Know That Men Don’t” are based on personal observances and experiences. But then, all of you women readers already knew that … didn’t you? See what I mean?
Thing number 1.
Most women know at least one hour before the man does if and when there will be sexual relations, and to what degree.
That’s right guys. Even with all of the scheming, plotting, romancing, smooth talk, drinks bought, jewelry gifted, flowers delivered, and favors returned: you might think that you have a master plan with a set objective. But, you still can’t be sure. She is. Believe me. She is sure.
She will know at least one hour before you do: if there will be sex; when the sex will take place; and what sexual acts will be performed.
The guy might be able to determine the place for said acts based on her state of arousal and a great deal of planning on his part. He might even think that he “slipped one past the goalie” from time to time. But, don’t be fooled. She knew what was coming before he had a clue. If it happened, she knew it was going to happen first.
Thing number 2.
Many women know how to share their feelings with one another.
OK, I can see you rolling your eyes from here. I know that almost every guy out there is saying “Why would I want to share my feelings with another guy?” Why indeed?
Well for one thing; it would provide a sounding board to bounce things off of in advance of you doing something stupid. You know you’ve been there. You’ve done something that later proved itself to be heartless, selfish, boorish, or short-sighted. Something that you later recognized as having been a poorly considered path. Something that you might have reconsidered had you had someone to talk with about it before you said, did, or wrote anything.
And yes, some guys are fortunate enough to have best buds, or brothers with whom they can commiserate. But, it’s pretty rare for guys to talk about intimate stuff like emotional relationships, the latest men’s fashions, or how someone made you feel. Guess what. Women do that shit all of the time.
Thing number 3.
Most women know men’s insecurities — even ones that the guy doesn’t know himself.
Guys, do you ever feel like maybe you’re being played by the fairer sex? That’s because you are. It’s like a sixth sense that drives their two minute drill offense. They see your weak spots. They gather the information. They wait until the closing minutes, then they throw the deep pattern that you never saw coming. Boom!
Are you a little insecure about your mid section? She knows it. You might not even remember sharing that with her. But, she knows. You don’t think she’s going to use that info do you? Just wait until you try on some jeans that she doesn’t like and she says: “They make you look a little big around the belly.” UGH!
Think she doesn’t know that you’re jealous of the neighbor’s new car? She does. Just wait until the next time she wants some new trees (that you don’t want) planted in the front yard. You don’t think she’ll throw out: “I just want one thing that is nicer than the Jones’.” Straight through the heart.
Thing number 4.
Many women know what sort of birth control they’re using (or not using) at all times.
Now at a certain age this might no longer be an issue. Age, menopause, hysterectomy, or a vasectomy may have solved this quandary for a man and his significant other. But, she’s been very certain all along. Even during times when he thought he knew the main line of defense; only she knew to what degree that was true.
Is she on the pill sir? Did you put it in peanut butter, put it in her mouth, stroke her throat to make her swallow, and then inspect her mouth to make sure? Did you check the color of every pill and the date to make sure it she wasn’t slipping in the placebo? Were there times when she seemingly allowed unprotected sex because she was “just too excited” to take precautions? Makes ya wonder doesn’t it?
Thing number 5.
Most women know about skin care and hair care products that most men never even knew existed.
Unless skin and / or hair care are part of their profession; it is a rare man who knows any of the latest products available.
Maybe he took a recommendation from a barber, girlfriend, or doctor and felt enlightened for the time being. But, this stuff changes fast. New products are being developed, trialled, released-to-market, and redefining the skin and hair treatment frontiers on a daily basis. So, if a guy isn’t reading articles, conversing with peers and consulting with skin and hair care professionals on a regular basis — just know that women are.
BTW: in case you were wondering … there is a list of things that men know, and that women don’t know too. But that’s a list for another day.
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Originally published at The Relevant Man and is republished on Medium.
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I don’t agree with this piece at all. I also don’t like the stereotypes being made about women in it. I’m sure women like this exist, and if you are with such a woman, you should leave her, but what the author of this piece is saying is true of women (except maybe women knowing more about hair an skin products), and what has actually been my experience as a woman and what I’ve observed from women close to me, this is unrelateable to our experiences. I will just say that I do not know an hour before a man… Read more »
I assume it was a reference to sports. American football, probably. I’m not particularly well-versed, but it involves the receiver going far (20 yards or more) up the field, ie. “going deep”, forcing the defenses to spread themselves thin, offering the quarterback more throwing options. If that long receiver manages to stay open, and ends up catching the throw, he/she has a good chance at scoring a touchdown, already being far up-field, and probably ahead of all the defense.
Somebody who knows their sports, feel free to correct/refine this explanation.
If she knows sex will happen, then women are all Manipulative and Controlling? And what about the 2 million women raped on campuses?
Well said Timothy !
If it’s rape, it’s not consensual, is it?
What the hell does “…throw the deep pattern that you never saw coming” mean??
It’s time to start differentiating between straight men and gay men in columns like this one. Most gay men know numbers 2, 3, and 5.
Indeed, an awful lot of the columns that the GMP posts simply don’t apply to us gays.
Scott It is sad that women think they control the trigger to all sexual encounters, whether couples are new to each other, in a long term relationship, or married. In the past 20 years the press and your article as well, tells men that if she just doesnt feel like it for so many different reasons, men are helpless and it aint gonna happen. Sex should not be decided by either sex, ever. Sex should be an open expression of love. Why does the press and why do women perpetuate the silly trendy notion that women have sexual power over… Read more »
Paul
Women can not control the trigger to all sexual encountors , and number #1 is just a silly statement…at least I do not understand what he tries to say here.
I guess it can be understood in several different ways, but for me it is a weird statement.
I though he meant women are sort of psychic ….
I wonder how you arrived at your conclusions here, Paul, because actually women do not “think they control the trigger to all sexual encounters”. Women have desires and urges, too. But from an evolutionary standpoint, women have more to lose in the act of procreation–up until 100 years ago, 20% of women who gave birth died in childbirth, to say nothing of how hard it is to raise a child if a man decides to walk away. And obviously, men are physically stronger than women. This is why why women more frequently find themselves in the position to turn down… Read more »
“This is why why women more frequently find themselves in the position to turn down sexual opportunities than men do.”
Yes, but the converse is also true: women more frequently find themselves in the position of ACCEPTING more sexual opportunities than men do. Translation: women have more options. As a result, they also tend to exercise those options more frequently.
Just saying…
He never said women know when sex won’t happen, he’s saying they generally know when it will happen and how it will happen. It’s pretty easy to know you will turn something down, hard to know if someone else won’t turn something down, even harder to know they will initiate it. And he wrong, but there’s a caveat of truth in it, most women believe they know when they are going to be propositioned and how to control it. Most women count on the fact that they can indirectly control male sexuality (if they are straight) and there’s a ton… Read more »
“Sex should not be decided by either sex, ever. Sex should be an open expression of love.” But, it has to be consensual Paul. So, by default someone IS deciding. “Why does the press and why do women perpetuate the silly trendy notion that women have sexual power over men?” It is we men who are silly. Not the press, the media, or women. When you are willing to pay for sex, it is a clear signal of just how much we men value it. Look at all the dumb and silly things we men do for sex. Is that… Read more »
Scott
I did not express myself well.
Most women have a circle of 28-30 days.
During those days her body changes and she is not fertil all of those 28-30 days.
And morning temperature ( unless she has a fever) plus the fuilds in her vagina, and the opening of her uterus changes .
It is easy to learn how to check those changes.
It is not 100% certain but when used corredly at leat you can avoid the days when everything indicates that here her most fertil part of the moth.
Good knowledge to have .
Hi Iben,
You did well enough.
Technology has solved this for us. You can buy ovulation test kits in the local drug store now. Of course, this requires the consent of the woman. Also, men need to know that ovulation occurs about midway through the cycle….
Btw, the word you are looking for is “cycle” not circle. But, English is not your first language so I get it.
Yes, it is good knowledge to for us men to possess.
Hi Scott About contraception. Any man today that would like to make love also when he do not want produce babies should read up about how to tell if the woman is in her fertil part of her menstruation circle. Of course he can not take her morning temperature ,unless they both cooperate . But he can trust her body fluid ( I don’t know the correct word for it). Put on your two fingers and pull, and see if it elastic like the white in uncooked eggs. Or un elastic. And he can put his finger in and touch… Read more »
#1 Most women know with 15 mins of meeting a man whether or not they will even have sex with him. If the man has any great skills at seduction, he can influence the timing…. #2 True. Women are more relational beings than we men. Enough said. #3 Yes, but only because we men feel we need to talk too damn much as a way to impress women. ” I am this, I am that…..I went to this school. I did this..I used to run that…blah blah.” In the process, we expose our insecurities. As you correctly noted, women are… Read more »
Scott
May I ask how you know , and NO other men know?
In many of your points, you describe women as deceitful and manipulative predators. Although there are some who are, most women are good and kind. They want better for their man than what you describe. In opposition to your interpretation to #3, a good and kind woman who senses her man’s insecurities would never use them to manipulate him: She would lovingly use it in a way to help him feel more secure.
Men, if you are with a woman that #1, 3 or 4 describes, RUN! You deserve better.
“In many of your points, you describe women as deceitful and manipulative predators. Although there are some who are, most women are good and kind.” I’ve been saying the same thing to women, about men, for years in attempt to cut through the assumed truth, to the truth. It is most unfortunate that soon enough, as the men’s movement grows, I’ll may be saying the same as you’ve stated here, to men, about women. What is the answer? No idea, but I will keep trumpeting against the tide. I’ve almost come to enjoy it. Not sure if that means I’m… Read more »
Thank you for your future show of support against the stereotype women have been labeled with for far too long.
I am no longer among those women who need to hear your words cutting through the assumed truth about men. Although this admission is awkward, I only learned the truth little more than a year ago. The preceding 40+ years of various kinds of relationships with the negative stereotype male taught me to expect that behavior from men in general. Now that I have experienced something much different, I will never again settle for less.
Nothing awkward about it. Most people never get there.
I’d say, well done.
Regarding number 1… if you have ever wanted to see a woman have a cognitive meltdown, say no to sex.
Definitely a good way to tell what kind of woman she is.
“She will know at least one hour before you do: if there will be sex; when the sex will take place; and what sexual acts will be performed.”
I’ve said no a couple of times. Wonder why they even bothered trying if they knew.
Maybe they weren’t really women, and by saying no, you saved yourself from a nasty surprise! O.o
This comes across as you really not liking women and associating the simple fact of gender with manipulative deceitful behaviour. Of course, there are women out there like this, but they’re not like this because they’re women.
“Of course, there are women out there like this, but they’re not like this because they’re women.”
Simple, yet immensely profound statement. if we could only apply that across the board to every gender and justice warrior.
Let me tell you, and only you a secret, he didn’t written this article, I read it somewhere, but to a completely different audience.
The audience were women and the response was completely different.
So much different it was positive and reassuring. (I don’t know if he’s plagiarizing or making a point, hard to know)
Number 3 is called verbal or emotional abuse. At least, it is when men do it to women.
Honestly? I don’t care is she knows we are going to have sex an hour before me, as long as she KNOWS that we are going to have sex!
Yeah. I was gonna say…the women I’ve met certainly know LONG before. They tell me. “Not in a million years!”
(Laughing).
I had no idea they could see that far into the future!
@ Anthony
Don’t worry, they could make 10,000 Kate Upton clones and I still wouldn’t have a chance. 🙂
I will say that these women you know are fairly terrible people…..Are you endorsing the behavior in #3 and #4? Conniving controlling and evil
There are plenty of things that men know that women do not.
I would love to know more about that! Maybe you could write an article, Tom.
I’m struggling to think of a non-weird situation where a woman might NOT be aware of what type of birth control she’s on.
If she forgets to take birth control. Is one situation.