Are you so caught up in someone else’s issues that you are losing your personal identity? Are the other person’s issues taking up your mindshare and are you focusing more on them and their issues than yourself?
For the most part, when we are in possible toxic relationships we tend to focus on the other person, we try to figure them out, to get into their psyche, and ultimately trying to understand their issues and what they need to work on. Many of us are currently reading self-help books to understand the person we’re in the relationship with, trying to understand possible diagnoses, symptoms, traits, and to understand why they do what they do. Yes, it is important to understand what the other person is dealing with and going through. However, we need to understand who we are, what we are going through, and what we’re dealing with.
Many times the other person in the relationship becomes a diversion to us, taking us off task from really examining our true self and understanding what we’re dealing with as well as our own mindset. We can get fixated on learning about the other person and even get fixated on trying to fix them. In today’s video, I’m explaining what and who a diversion is, I’ll give you the information and knowledge you need to understand and identify if you have one in your life, and lastly I’ll talk about how to stop focusing on the diversion and instead use this situation and relationship to be the catalyst to personal powerful change.
Are you in a relationship with someone who exhibits signs of borderline personality disorder? It’s time to put you in the driver’s seat so you are no longer in the dark on what to do, how to act, and how to respond. You can learn more about my BPD Mastercall HERE.
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