How to Be a Woman of Value When a Man Stands You Up
That night, he walked me to my car again and kissed me goodbye.
Oh.My.God. Waiting is HARD!
Me: “I cooked an amazing meal last night. Why weren’t you here? ? ”
Him: “I was so busy the last 2 week—had no life really.”
Me: “Hey, with a little advance notice, I can make time in my busy life for you. ? “
Him: “Great, I need to do the same, I’m away this weekend, I’m back Sunday night, lets plan on meeting early next week.”
Me: “Sure. That would be great. Monday or Wednesday works for me. Let me know when and where, and I’ll be there.”
And then he sent this text:”I’m cooking?”
“There’s a part of me that would love to come over and taste your delicious home-cooked meal…And I also know that when I’ve done that too soon in the past, it hasn’t worked out well. If you pick a restaurant in Westchester, I’d be happy to drive to you.”
He said, “Ok!!! Ill do that ? “
“Good morning Sandy, Im so sorry about yesterday, I had so much work i completely forgot. I got home at 8:30 and I started at 7:30. my bad. I hope you’ll understand and forgive me ? “
“I forgave you when you disappeared for two weeks after saying you wanted to see me the week before. Can I forgive you for forgetting about our date? Honestly, I felt disrespected when I didn’t hear from you yesterday. It sure didn’t feel good to be forgotten. And I can forgive you. I don’t hold grudges.
But I’m looking for a man who follows through with his word, someone who respects me enough to make me a priority in his life. Seems like your work is a bigger priority right now. So, I’m closing the door for now. All the best to you.”
Him: “I will tell you that, I meant no disrespect in any way. I understand your disappointment in me and my actions. The only thing I can do is to apologize. But you’re right, my life is very busy lately with the new company I started.”
Here’s a #womanofvalue truth bomb:
It doesn’t matter if a man is great looking, generous, and kind if he has any deal breakers. Even one deal breaker makes all the good stuff null and void.