Could an apology actually make a bad situation worse? Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert sees a clue as to why she may have lost interest in him…
Question: I think my girlfriend has lost interest in me. There is something missing between us. It started about two weeks ago when I wasn’t able to attend her work function. I apologized and thought I made it up to her but there has been this weird distance between us ever since. What’s going on?
Answer: I have about a million other questions in response to your question because if A, then B. If C, then D. Nonetheless great man, I honor your knowing, your gut that’s something UP.
It sounds like there’s unspoken communications here. It may have meant the WORLD to her that you go and you didn’t get the gravity of her request and she feels unimportant. It could be that the reason you didn’t go really triggered a fear in her. It could be that she’s afraid you were with people more important than her or even with another woman… I have NO IDEA what she’s made it mean… yet if indeed a change in connection happened after not attending that event… something in her MIND and HEART has happened.
Just apologizing seems to be sprinkles on the ice-cream cone of shit… perhaps coming off as shallow in comparison to the depth of being understood and soothed that she really requires. It could be that she’s lost respect for you that you just apologize and not stand up for yourself about why you chose not to go. Sometimes when men say I’m sorry for everything they appear weak or people pleasers, giving the woman more power than she wants!
Bottom line? Talk. Talk about it. Talk in a sandwich which means putting something grateful or affirming or connecting at both ends of the meat of the situation. My video gives an example.
Lastly watch that in her pulling away you don’t get needy. What would it take for you to be OK that she needs space while also guiding the relationship into a productive conversation that provided connection, honesty and space to be real? How could you be in allowance of all this uncertainty and not freak? Big stuff, yes?
I recommend you download my complementary report at www.GetHerToSayYes.com for more ways to stay centered when in a woman’s emotional storm. And if it’s a pattern that women pull away, it could be something that you’re subconsciously doing that if you changed and healed, could allow relationships to go from good to great, great to glorious. I invite you to apply for a complementary strategy session with me to get to the bottom of this blind spot. www.AllanaPratt.com/connect
Bottom line is that relationships are alive, they ebb and flow, there are times when you feel on top of the world and times you feel out of control… what if you could develop the capacity to soothe yourself, speak up for yourself, be in allowance and open to savoring all the experience has to offer… knowing no matter what you are a great man? Cuz you are 😉 Huge love, Allana xoxo