Love is a beautiful feeling. The rush of emotions you feel as the one comes near you, the attraction you feel towards them, and the desire to be around them all the time — are beautiful accomplices of love. However, like all good things must come to an end, so does a relationship.
Why Do Relationships End?
Although you may have felt that you two were meant to be together; sometimes, it just isn’t meant to be.
There are many reasons that may lead to breakups in relationships. Couples drift apart. The charm might be no more. Or —and this hurts the most— discovering that your partner is disloyal.
If you feel your girlfriend is fidgety around you, and you find yourself wondering, if she is seeing another guy, chances are – she probably is.
If you want to be sure of her disloyalty before you decide to break up, there are various ways of how to tell if your girlfriend is texting another guy:
- She hides her phone from you
- Her messaging applications are password protected
- She smiles sheepishly at incoming texts
- Her phone is always clutched in her hand
- She appears hesitant and fidgety when you ask her who the message is from
If you find her displaying most or all of these signs, then your thoughts are true; she might just be with another guy or might have developed feelings for somebody else.
The next step of the journey: the unfortunate breakup.
How to Break Up Graciously
While the entire ordeal to break up a couple that was once so in love, seems a difficult and sorrowful task, there are ways to break up graciously with your significant other.
Here’s how you can go about it:
- Rethink and Confirm
The first step to a healthy breakup is by being sure that you want it. People often decide to break up on the slightest of feelings and see themselves developing feelings for the other only sometime later.
Do not do this. We repeat, do not do this.
Take your time to rethink and confirm. Are you breaking up on an impulse? Or do you really, truly believe you two are not meant for each other and cannot deal with the differences.
Once you are sure; the breakup becomes a seamless affair for both individuals as they know they have different paths to follow and are willing to accept it.
- Do It in A Private Space
When breaking up, do not choose a public venue. Please do not do it over the phone, or God forbid on a text!
Breakups require a moment of emotional connection, communication, and of course your last moments together as a couple. Reminisce the olden times but also acknowledge that you need to part ways for your own good.
- Do Not Create A Scene
Of course, if you found out that your partner is seeing somebody else on the side — you are bound to feel angry.
But, never lash out on the other because that is not a healthy break up; for her or you.
Control your actions, express your feelings, but do not break into a tantrum.
Remember, after this breakup, you don’t have to meet them again anyway, so what’s the point of creating a scene?
- Do Not Be Hurtful In Your Sentences
Breakups usually entail a lot of name-calling, a little belittling, and maybe even a slap or two; if the girl is very angry.
However, when desiring to breakup with someone graciously; you must not be hurtful in your sentences. Remember, there was once a time when you fell head over heels for the other, and while you may not feel the same way today, that earlier feeling needs to be respected and upheld.
Therefore, be humble, be gracious, and choose your words wisely. Tell the other how you really feel, and why it wouldn’t work out. Who knows, maybe you lose the relationship, but retain the friendship?
- Give Space
No, you cannot go consoling your significant other (ex) after you have broken up with them. No matter how stressed they feel, no matter how much you miss them; if you wish to part ways and continue with that, there needs to be distance.
This means stop communicating with them, at least for a short period, post the breakup. Find other things to keep yourself busy. Discover your own self, and try to rise above all the happenings, instead of dwelling in the past.
Alas, We’ve Broken Up!
Once you break up, there is no going back, or at least there shouldn’t be.
But, do not let a breakup hinder your life. A relationship is a part of your life, but contrary to common thought, it is not our entire life.
Grieve for some time, process the emotions, and alas — let it go!
This content is sponsored by Eduard Thompson.