For the record, I am not saying women are not guilty of making such mistake but from my experience as as online dating photographer, I have noticed these mistakes men are more likely to make on their online dating profile. Here are some tips to avoid hurting your chances at more right swipes.
- Shirtless photos. There is nothing wrong with shirtless photos of you, at the beach but in a club, at the gym, or some other non-tropical, non-hot tub environment should be avoided.
- Blurry photos or photos taken from a distance. Just because you love your epic photo from some outdoor adventure (on top of a mountain top, top of the ski slope, jumping from a waterfall etc.) doesn’t mean women will love them — this is especially true if your face is not visible or if it is too blurry.
- Photos with exes or women (cropped out or not). If it is a photo with your mom, sister or close friend — say so. Otherwise find another photo.
- Drunk photos. Chances are you have a photo from college, bachelor party or some other shenanigans. Typically these are not flattering. You look more lethargic, heavier in drunk photos. Stay clear.
- Sunglasses. Are you trying to look cool? Are you trying to hide your face? Unless you are at the beach or at the park on a sunny day, keep these photos to a minimum — of 1 or better yet avoid altogether. Women love to see what you look like but if you have sunglasses in your photos, it might seem like you are trying to hide something.
- Gym selfies. Well actually all selfies in general. Nothing communicates vanity and a need for attention more than gym selfies (except maybe gym bathroom selfies). Just say no to selfies.
- Not smiling. This seems super obvious but this is perhaps the biggest mistake men make. As an online dating photographer I have to remind potential clients that these photos are used to market yourself — these are not DMV photos nor are they gang photos to show how tough you think you are. Smiling is the number one request I get from women for photos I take of the male clients.
- Looking away. I know many of the Tinder articles in the news suggest turning to the side but I highly suggest you don’t. If you happen to have one candid photo you love that happens to look away — fine but if you have several photos looking away then it signals you are shy, have concerns over privacy, are trying to hard to look cool or have something on the side of your face you are trying to hide.
- Bad posture. Yes, you cannot expect a photo of you sitting on a couch or somewhere passively will be effective at attracting women. You have to seem interesting, creative and charming. Sitting lethargically with your belly hanging out or slouching is not a good look. Use good posture but be sure to relax so you don’t come off looking like a robot
This article originally appeared on PS I Love You and is republished here with the author’s permission.
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