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Here we go again, another mass shooting and the habitual cycle of madness is off and running. When is this ever going to end? My heart goes out to the victims and families of the senseless massacre at the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida. I cannot fathom the grief and hopelessness this inexplicable event has promulgated on these innocent people.
It must also be frustrating to have to experience what follows. On the one hand, we have the advocacy of those who want stricter gun laws to better control registration and ownership. Then there are those who don’t want to talk guns but want to center the conversation on mental health screening and treatment. Although logic tells us all these things are needed, both sides will scream at each other and ignore a chance at coming together.
Next comes the blame game. We are already seeing a denunciation of law enforcement agencies. It will not be long before the target moves on to schoolteachers and administrators. Eventually, responsibility will land on the perpetrator’s parents and guardians. Our cultural war will craze around these different issues for quite some time. Some will lose their jobs or become ostracized as we try to extract a pound of flesh for what happened. The furor will die down and meaningful change is avoided. As we do nothing, another massacre is forthcoming.
Polling shows that most Americans know gun ownership and mental health are intertwined in these horrible tragedies. So too are law enforcement agencies, school administrations, parents, and guardians. But what gets ignored in the discussion is the self-created consciousness of fear and violence festering daily in our nation.
Dealing with our societal traditions is a complicated issue that takes time, so before talking about them, let me emphasize the things I believe we should do today. Beginning with responsible gun ownership, we need stricter registrations requirements and limit the use of assault weapons. We need more extensive mental treatment for troubled youths, especially when alarming traits are noticed early on. Law enforcement agencies must address their deficiencies in preempting the actions of menacing individuals before it is too late. Our teachers and school administrators need training to recognize problem students early so they can get proper authorities to intervene. Parents need training, support and options to raise problem children. These things are important, but they require more attention and resources than they are getting today. This is why we should take the advantage of our democratic system and elect who will take the desired action.
Improving these things alone will not change the trajectory of our American culture, however, this is something individuals must venture to do for themselves. I first became conscious of this in the late 1990s when I was the Executive Director of the Colorado Department of Transportation (CDOT). Towards the end of my tenure, one of our employees shot and killed and coworker and wounded another for denying his request for new office furniture. Although the gravity of this situation does not compare to the enormity of the calamities that have happened since, it was devastating to the culture of our organization at the time of its occurrence. A lot of my time was needed consoling employees and restoring their confidence in the department.
However, for as horrible as this incident was, I was shocked when I received a handful of emails from employees supporting the actions of the shooter. Their common argument was that when one does not get what they want from management, they may take matters into your own hands. In my view of the world, I can’t imagine the instance where anyone would support killing someone else in retaliation. To deal with the situation, we hired several psychiatrists/experts in workplace violence. They provided an invaluable piece of information that has stayed with me to this day. Statistic show that about one percent of any population is capable of this kind of destructive behavior. At CDOT, this meant that thirty out of the three thousand employees could kill their coworkers. In the USA, this translates into the possibility that 3.25 million citizens are capable of conducting this kind of destruction. This sheer number alone support the need for greater gun ownership, increased mental health treatment, better training, etc. Is it possible they are being encouraged by a nation that believes violence is a proper problem solving strategy?
Take a moment to think about our culture. It is hard to deny that many view those who are different as evil and out to destroy them. This exists in politics and in religious differences. As a country we turn to war to protect our entitlements and shun diplomacy because it is messy, takes long to implement and does not guarantee deference to our needs. We support the death sentence as proper retribution for some crimes. Hatred and fear can be heard in the calls for deportations and in our institutionalized racism, homophobia, homogony and discrimination. Our movies, music and games profit from celebrating crime, rape, vengeance, violence, gunfights and taking the law into your own hands. Media highlights mostly the negative stories, adding to the fear and resolution we must defend ourselves against those who don’t share our values. Businesses focus on vanquishing their competition. We teach our children to refuse responsibility for their actions by blaming those in authority for the problem. We rejoice in the violence of our most celebrated spectator sports. There is more, and I am not even bringing up the violence perpetrated on animals.
The #MeToo movement shows violence of a different kind. The numerous acts of sexual harassment and abuse of women have exposed the culture that exists among the powerful. A position of authority entitles the holder to treat others, especially women, as objects meant to satisfy their whims. The high profile cases have exposed the people at the highest levels of every profession, but I am sure this behavior is rampant at every level where someone exercises control over another.
Bottom line is this; the constant promotion of violence enables those who are capable of horrible acts to justify their actions. If this continues, they will find other means of perpetrating their harm even if we restrict their availability to guns.
So how do we change this? It has to start with all of us—this includes our leaders in politics, religion, academia, business, media, etc.—to become conscious of what we are promoting. Recognizing this allows us to change it, or at least, celebrate the other side of humanity, that of love, generosity, courage, empathy, philanthropy, inclusion, and understanding. We must also stop investing our time and resources on those things that focus on violence.
Rejecting fear and violence and replacing it with things that support a greater direction for humanity have to start somewhere. It might as well start with you and me.
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