Sean Davis kicks off a new series called “On Fathers of Fathers,” featuring adult children who address how their fathers influenced their parenting. In death, Sean’s dad becomes something more than a bad memory.
adult children of alcoholics
An adult child of an alcoholic shares four signs of codependency and what to do about it.
While I don’t condemn you for drinking, I do ask myself as the third glass is poured, what is causing them to check out?
If you’re an adult who grew up in an alcoholic family, some things can’t be outgrown.
Are you comfortable in your own skin or do you feel more like a circus monkey?
I learned that my father had done the best he could with the tools he had.
I used to hear people say you should be required to pass a test or take a class to be a parent, I never understood why—now I understand and agree with them.
Perfection isn’t possible, but excellence is always in the grasp.
For adult children of alcoholics, trying to be perfect and a people-pleaser comes with weak boundaries.
Their alcoholic father left them a legacy of abuse and hate, but they learned to leave that behind.
A daughter learns to accept the inheritances from her father, good and bad, and appreciate them for what they bring to her life.
Telling our story of abuse does not erase it, but it is part of the work that is needed to heal.
From being raised by relatives, caring for his mother, mourning a father he barely knew, and homeless. To performing his own songs on stage.
Love hurts, if we let it. But we can evolve beyond the pain and fear when we learn to let go and say Goodbye.
From surviving abuse as a child to battling alcoholism as an adult. Regrets, forgiveness, and the peace to move on.
If your family will not be kind to you this holiday season, please: be kind to yourself.