When I set out on this journey, three years ago, to build a 100% positive divorce parenting blog, well… I knew there would be challenges.
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Perhaps when you are older it will be a conversation we can have. But today, I just wanted to record, for the future, that the divorce was not my idea. Ever.
My ex and I tried to have a low-conflict cooperative divorce. Only problem is, she got an attorney, I didn’t. As cooperative as we were, when it came time to draft the decree we left it up to her attorney to set up the fair separation of our financial and parenting duties. It wasn’t fair and…
I’ve given up imagining that my words or actions can change her in any way. We’d like to think we can make another person happy, or comfortable, or secure. Unfortunately, we cannot.
She went ahead and filed on me. It’s the equivalent to sending your loved one (former loved one) to a collections agency. Suddenly my credit score fell through the floor, and I became listed as a deadbeat dad.
The alone-ness of divorce isn’t something anyone bothered to tell me about. Maybe I didn’t ask, maybe I didn’t listen, maybe I didn’t want to know.
Embed from Getty ImagesPeople who say that children will be “ruined” by divorce are speaking from fear and not moving toward the future with love.___By Elif EkinIt is coming up on my 5-year divorce anniversary. Our life has shifted and changed so much that life pre-divorce seems like a lifetime ago. One day, I found…
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