Projection is a defense mechanism commonly used by abusers, including people with narcissistic or borderline personality disorder and addicts.
All of your relationships are here to guide you to a better understanding of yourself and greater self-love
The fingers point back to you.
Those whose have a physicality, skin colour or gender that doesn’t match another’s safe and trusted blueprint, often tread a fine line. They have a choice to make. They can either adjust themselves to make another feel safe, or be themselves and deal with someone else’s fear stories about them. It could be something as…
Codependents have underlying internalized shame, which fosters a guilty conscience. They’re especially hard on themselves and may suffer from frequent bouts of unrelenting, false guilt.
Vulnerability is the key to creating a healthy, loving, and juicy relationship.
Or at the very least you can choose to hold in that feeling until you are somewhere it can be expressed. If you’re sick and tired of your senator you can find ways to put that feeling into action instead of just getting a bunch of drinks every time he or she says something that makes you cringe. You can channel that energy into electing the new candidate. You can learn meditation, work out, and find what works for you because now you’re not yelling at your kids, picking a fight with the neighbor, or letting “little things” mean so much more than you rationally know that they do.
The freedom of being “true” to oneself seems to elude a lot of us. There are expectations of us at every turn, and sometimes these are projected upon us.
A new standard has been set. New precedents for acceptable behavior established. Abuse is now embraced as normalcy.
Sean Swaby has found that life is hard. It just is. But waking up is more fun than dreaming.
Thomas Fiffer shines a light on the lingering effects of emotional abuse.
Ross Rosenberg makes the critical distinction between damaging criticism and constructive input.
Vironika Tugaleva shares a simple but not easy solution to the cycle of abuse.
We were happy in our little dream and we were working hard to keep it warm and fun. And of course we had the baby boy. The amazing baby boy.