For many couples, the term “bedroom issues” could be used to describe only one thing– issues regarding sex, such as discrepancy in sex drive between partners. As important as these issues are, there are other bed-related hurdles that many couples have to find themselves navigating, and these can be almost as explosive to confront.
The General Rule
It is generally accepted that two people involved in a romantic relationship with one another will share a bed. In fact, if news emerges that a married couple are not sharing a bed, this is treated as a sign that their relationship is in trouble.
It’s easy to see why sharing a bed has such a status in popular culture. First and foremost, there’s the intimacy factor, which includes affection as well as sex. People presume that if a couple are not sharing a bed, that’s also a sign they are not physical with one another. Then there is the simple fact that sharing a bed is just the done thing– but it’s a done thing that might be causing harm to your relationship.
Sharing A Bed: The Reality
Have you ever experienced any of the following:
Waking up at night to discover that your partner has stolen the cover and you’re now freezing cold…
… or being woken by your irritated partner informing you that you’re the cover thief on this occasion?
Found yourself struggling to sleep because your space is constrained by the presence of another person?
Struggled to regulate your body temperature while sleeping; particularly during the summer?
Experienced issues with your partner snoring; or your partner complaining of being unable to sleep due to your snoring?
You have been very fortunate if you have never experienced any of these issues in your relationship; for most couples, they are commonplace. Yet despite these issues, the vast majority of couples still insist on sharing a bed.
It’s Worth Considering If This Is A Good Idea
If you are experiencing chronic issues when sharing a bed, then you might want to think about moving into a separate beds arrangement. You probably recoil from this suggestion, but it’s important to understand just how much of a benefit this can be to your relationship. As the couples featured on www.HuffingtonPost.com show, it is perfectly possible to have a loving, committed relationship, but without sharing a bed.
Separate beds can ensure you both get a good night’s sleep, which can only be beneficial for your relationship. You can still spend time in bed together, being affectionate and having sex, but then move into your own space when the time to sleep arrives. There is no point in continuing a behavior for no other reason than social convention; if sharing a bed is getting you down, it’s important you know that separate beds do not indicate separate lives.
This is a contributed post.