When you are watching your partner going through the pain of giving birth, you can start to feel like you are helpless and a spare part. However, there are plenty of ways in which you can be a better birth partner to make the things a little bit easier on your other half. Ultimately, it is all about being supportive and attentive to her needs. In this blog post, we are going to give you a bit of specific advice which is directly related to preparing yourself to be the perfect birth partner before you become a great father. So, let’s get started!
- Be aware of her needs. To start off with, you need to be aware of her wants and needs during when she is giving birth. If she has a birth plan, you are the one who will need to be responsible for bringing it to the hospital so that everything is properly carried out. The more that you have prepared in advance, the easier things are going to be on both of you.
- Look after yourself. When you are packing up the things that you need for staying over at the hospital, don’t forget to include things for yourself as well. Bring some comfortable clothing as in all likelihood, you are going to be there for a long time. Also, remember to bring some things along with you that you can eat and drink. And don’t forget to actually eat and drink them as it is important that you keep your strength up!
- Know what to expect. You don’t want to go into the delivery room with no real idea what is going on. So, make sure that you have done your reading in advance. Go along to the antenatal classes with an open mind and this can end up giving you a lot of the advice and preparation that you need. You also get the opportunity to talk with other dads-to-be so that you can share some of your concerns, as well as providing advice based on what you have respectively learned.
- Act as a support team. In many ways, you are going to need to act as a one-person support team, so be prepared to follow the wishes of your partner. It could be something as simple as running to the cafeteria for a packet of sweets or a cold drink. It may be that you need to provide some support with the breathing exercises. Don’t underestimate what a trying experience this could end up being for you as well, and there is no doubt that it could leave you feeling physically and emotionally exhausted.
- Be prepared to wait. Leading onto the next point nicely; you need to be prepared to wait for an indefinite amount time. Unlike the births that happen in the movies and on TV, this is not something which is going to be over in a matter of minutes. It is much more likely to take many hours, and you need to have a lot of patience and stamina. Some couples find that it is more comfortable to spend the early stages of labour at home before transferring to the hospital when they feel entirely ready to go.
- Be prepared to take charge. After many hours in labour, you partner may well not be in the best frame of mind to make any difficult decisions. Therefore, you need to be prepared to take charge and be ready to step in with some clear action if the situation calls for it. The same goes after the baby arrives, and you may need to be the one who is doing much of the liasing with the hospital. If there is any sort of birth injury, you have to be prepared to deal with the legal situation. But only take charge having discussed it with your partner beforehand to make sure that she is entirely comfortable with the situation.
- Be ready for surprises. If neither you nor your partner have ever been through labour in the past, you both won’t be able to be entirely certain of what to expect. Even if you read all the books in the world, the actual situation may prove to be entirely different. Ultimately, having this degree of flexibility to the situation can end up making all the difference.
Being the perfect birth partner involves a variety of different techniques, but after reading through this article, hopefully, you feel just a little bit more prepared.
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