No Apology At All?
We’ve reached the point where social media now allows people to immediately respond to the more egregious bullshit said or done by our famous (or even not so famous) figures. As a result we’ve seen a large influx in truly terrible apologies for bad behaviour and thoughtless mistakes and each one is more infuriating than the last. Having been wronged, we know we’re due a sincere admission of guilt and offer of repentance, so when it doesn’t come it feels like we’ve been hurt and abused all over again.
In a perfect world, every malefactor would possess the self-awareness and humility to recognize their crime/error and be humble enough to express genuine sorrow and appreciation for the distress that they caused. But we don’t live in a perfect world and very often these folks are incapable of understanding why their actions proved so hurtful and as a result we get the dreaded, “I’m sorry that you’re all angry at me” apology that causes our collective blood to boil.
Of course, it would be awesome if everyone could use their mistakes to gain the enlightenment that previously eluded them, but in most cases that isn’t going to happen–especially in the handful of days over which these scandals usually erupt.
That’s why we often find ourselves in the position of having to either accept a dreaded non-apology apology or no apology at all. Both are terrible options–likely to only make things worse–but they’re usually all we’ve got.
Which one do you prefer?
Would you rather someone make an insincere admission of regret or say nothing at all?