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Have you ever thought about having sex with a woman other than your wife? If so, are these thoughts something that will remain fantasies, or do you think that you will ever go through with them? What are the reasons you might consider sex with another woman? Is it strictly for pleasure? Is it for sexual experiences that your wife cannot, or will not, give you? Or are you simply realizing that sex with the same person for decades might not be the way life intended? Whether you are playing the field for an affair or not, this is a view of our male sexuality and our desire to have sex, sometimes with someone other than your wife.
I am a storyteller. Stories that have stood the test of time contain universal truths that teach us how to live as individuals, as a community, and as a man. Have you heard of the term “the world’s oldest profession?” It comes from storytelling. Do you know what it is? If you guessed prostitution, you’re right! We don’t know if prostitution really is the world’s oldest profession, but one of the reasons it has received that status is because prostitution has been around since an ink-soaked reed first touched papyrus.
This is an example of where storytelling unveils the nature of male sexuality. If there has always been prostitution, then we must acknowledge that there has always been a male audience for sex. You can go back thousands of years and you will discover there has always been a supply because there has always been a demand. In the same way myth has detailed legends of great wars and warriors, and empires that have risen and fallen, there has always been sex and mankind’s desire for it. Sexual desire was here before you were born, and will be here for centuries to come, so don’t feel bad if you think about sex more often you’d like to admit.
Where our natural desire for sex meets frustration is when myth categorizes sex into good and evil. There are many stories of saints and prophets being tempted by the worldly desires of money, power, and sex. Our current interpretations of myth that are depicted in modern day religion heavily influence the good and evil of our sexual desire. Our leading 21st century religions of Islam and Christianity, totaling over three billion followers, heavily associate sexuality with guilt, shame, and self-centered rebellion. These stories leave our current social constructs searching for a sedative to our sexual desires.
How has your myth, or your religion, shaped you into the sexual being you are today?
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What I invite you to do is examine your own teachings of sexuality. What were you taught as a child? How has your myth, or your religion, shaped you into the sexual being you are today? I found that I had to rid myself of the guilt and sin associated with sexual desire. Through storytelling, I learned that sex has also been practiced over thousands of years to achieve higher levels of consciousness and godliness in different religions and myths. Becoming a storyteller is one of the greatest gifts that life has given me. It enables me to be the creator of my own legend. With that being stated, a new question emerges. With the bad and evil removed from my own understanding of sex, does this mean that I can share sex with women other than my wife? Again, I turn to storytelling.
What ancient myth teaches us is that the nuclear family was not always the preferred family dynamic. Stories travel thousands of miles to show that there have been centuries of husbands who had wives, midwives they had sex with, and concubines (sex slaves). When we add status and power to the fathers of yore, we only see the numbers exacerbated. King Solomon had over 700 wives and 300 concubines. Buddhist ruler, King Bindusar, had over 100 sons. Do we see similar sexual behavior in our current civilization? The answer is yes.
We can try to hide it as much as we would like, but pervasive male sexual behavior abounds.
Within the families of celebrities, politicians, and star athletes we see affairs, divorce, and children outside of marriage. For decades now, prominent women such as Hillary Clinton and Maria Shriver have even realized that there is no covering up of sex scandals with which their husbands are involved. Is sexual desire any different for you and me? The answer is no.
What will stop mankind from their prominent desire for sex? Religious guilt? Sexually transmitted diseases? I believe we have to face the fact that male sexual desires are not diminishing anytime soon. People believe we are an over-sexed society. I do not. I believe the veil has dropped. Just as we are seeing much more of the truth in the worldwide media about racism, violence, and hate, we are also seeing our true nature with sex. Our desire for sex is not going to change. We need to change.
So, back to my question. Is it time for your extramarital affair? If you have decided yes, then I commend you. I am choosing to do the same. I will now be having sex with your wife. I am a loving man, but this is not about dating. This is strictly for pleasure. My goal is to make her feel great sexually. I will listen to her desires. I will give her everything you cannot, or would not, fulfill. She will do the same for me. After the affair ends, we will part ways, no strings attached. This might be the only time that she might be angry or hurt. Maybe, as her husband, you will be able to remind her how not all male sexual relationships lead to dating, marriage, or commitment. It is purely the nature of man. It is purely sex and it is purely natural.
If what I am writing here is something that makes sense to you, then you may realize that you could live a productive life as a swinger.
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If what I am writing here is something that makes sense to you, then you may realize that you could live a productive life as a swinger. Or maybe you might realize you and your wife would like an open marriage. These lifestyles are commonly frowned upon in our current social constructs, so I truly commend you on your courage and maturity in accepting sex as something completely pleasurable that is something to be shared.
In closing, I would like to make a confession. I don’t want to sleep with your wife. I don’t plan on having an affair. I’m a storyteller. I have learned from the lessons that myth has taught me and they have helped me grow as a man. Sex is an inherent desire. I know that. It is part of our physiology. I also know that we as men have evolved beyond our triune “reptilian” brain. We can choose to live beyond our root, sacral, and solar plexus chakras. We can live from the heart. And that means respecting everyone in your sexual relationships, especially your wife.
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