my name is Big Dipper I think I identify
in lots of different ways sexually I
mostly identify as a top I’m waiting for
someone to turn me into a bottom my name
is Jonathan Luke I identify mostly at
the bottom but a curious top i’m
cliffie’s I identify as a power bottom
but with the curious top some
infatuations on that I have talked
before my name is Jay and I’m just some
top bottom shaming is crazy to me
because it like I aspire to be a bottom
at some point in my life the amount of
pleasure I see that other people receive
from taking dick is something that I
would like to experience the amount of
prep work the amount of trust the amount
of like open it like it’s crazy to me
bottoms are truly great American heroes
and it’s crazy to me that their shaming
I’m like and it’s mostly shaming from
tops and I’m like they’re the ones
letting you put your dick inside them so
I always tell people who bottom shame
okay so what do you what do you want to
fight their hand are you trying to like
meet with with another top and then then
battle it out to see like who wins you
know why exactly are you bottom shaming
it tears down basically everything about
our community and a good top is somebody
who has been a bottom before because if
you knew that I haven’t eaten I had to
spend an hour in the shower getting
ready and then like you want to go and
have food right away that ain’t happenin
we’re gonna do the get the deed done and
then we can have some food you’re trying
to get it in I’m trying to get it in and
Chipotle ain’t part of it I was with
this guy and if I had a bottle from all
the time and it was kind of like a job
and to not elevate that person or
celebrate that person for like we’re
giving of themselves and being open to
that and so that’s why I aspire to be
about it because I’m thinking like you
go through all of that it must feel very
nice in there there’s like this
fascination and I play into it
the idea of sort of like a very
masculine straight acting person who’s
like oh yeah you fucked me in the ass
and you’re like oh look I’m so
fascinated like why is that such an
excitement this idea of like a more
masculine bottom oh this person is just
as
or maybe even more masculine than I am
so and I get to dominate them and that’s
the tricky thing because like even
though we can sit here and recognize all
of the like issues and problems my dick
doesn’t always recognize them like
that’s a fantasy like I want to
participate in that can you talk about
being a femme top because I’m obsessed
with that people always assume that just
especially because of my voice they
think that I’m a bottom like right away
they like don’t take me seriously it
feels boldly to be like I’m a femme top
those positions of who’s in charge or
who’s more masculine or who’s more
feminine
they don’t necessarily in my mind relate
I’m attracted to both I think it’s hot
when it’s like a little half of both I
mean I’m not saying I’m not a chocolate
to just strictly you know feminine or
strictly just masculine I like grounded
men I like because I’m a very flighty
person my elements are air and fire and
so I like someone who was you know more
earthy and that doesn’t have anything to
do with masculine or feminine but it
took me a while to really kind of like
realize that when I go Emin
relationships I tend to go to a little
bit older sometimes or at least
something that can offer me a little
stability because I’ve been on my own
for a lot of my life which is fine and
I’m stronger for it it definitely
doesn’t have like a stereotype or a
light like a box that I can fit like my
type into because I try to stay pretty
open I’ve been attracted to older men
sort of most of my life body type I’ve
always liked thicker really something to
grab onto something to hold on to but
that’s been changing a lot recently I
think that by hating on femininity
you’re actually hating on somebody’s
journey I think it’s so deeply personal
to hate on somebody for who they are
it’s like your journey in this life well
and it’s that classic thing that we all
do where what’s reflected back to us the
parts of ourselves that we don’t like
that’s what we tear down in other people
I think a way to move past all of that
number one is to actually get to know
people converse with people before
automatically labeling them until you
have these conversations you’re looking
at this stereotype once you make that
stereotype a human being I think that’s
when we really have an opportunity to go
out
and grow together and to grow away from
the boxes we like to put each other in I
think a way to combat the trend of
bottom shaming is to work in the
opposition of it and have like bottom
celebration day where we do something
different the more we can learn about
someone else’s experience and identify
with it
check your insecurities at the door
before spewing that out at her apartment
door at my apartment door in a trash can
we’re all Burnet
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